Why dont people like to admit that they are wrong

twiggle

Well-known member
how willing i am to accept im wrong depdends on who is accusing me of being wrong , as i said earlier , some people accuse you of being wrong in the wrong , they do this to hurt you , blacken you , its important to be on your guard against people like this

Perhaps, but personally I think if you're wrong, you're wrong. If you know you're wrong about something you should admit it; it doesn't matter who's doing the accusing.
 

KiaKaha

Banned
I'm more than happy to admit when I've got it wrong and I always appreciate others who do it too. Say if a colleague were to make an error that proved costly on my part... if they were to simply say, 'I got it wrong, I'm sorry', I wouldn't feel any resentment at all for the inconvenience caused.

I couldnt agree more. Like I said I dont think there is anything paricularly bad about making mistakes and being wrong (within reason I mean)...its the denial and the delusion that we are all perfect beings that I disagree with.

If someone has the courage to say "look.... I stuffed up, I am sorry, I will learn and try not to do it again... " then I think that person at least deserves another chance to prove themselves to get it right.

I remember one time I was outside drinking a coffee (taking a break at work) and I accidentally knocked over my mug spilling the coffee and breaking it.

BOY you should of seen the looks I got... it was incredible... everyone stopped what they were doing and looked at me as if I just set someones house on fire....

I guess this topic is actually closely related to how quickly people can judge you based on the last thing that you did. Its funny.... you could be the most generous, kindest, nicest person ever.... but the moment you mess up... BAM...thats it... your reputation has been tarnished and thats all you will be remembered for.

Hey...remember David Carridine?
 

Lea

Banned
I just feel the need to point out this, in case some people don´t realize: admitting a mistake when we´ve done something wrong, messed up or misunderstood someone is great.

But I´m not sure if some people don´t mistake this with not being firm in our opinions on important things, or being easily influenceable into giving up what we believe in or into giving up some moral values. Because IMO this is not a virtue, rather on the contrary.

It doesn´t mean though that I am not open, or even happy to change my opinion if the arguments of the other person are really good and strong and I feel like they convinced me because their opinion is better than mine or at least completes or extends my knowledge in a positive way.
 

twiggle

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I couldnt agree more. Like I said I dont think there is anything paricularly bad about making mistakes and being wrong (within reason I mean)...its the denial and the delusion that we are all perfect beings that I disagree with.

If someone has the courage to say "look.... I stuffed up, I am sorry, I will learn and try not to do it again... " then I think that person at least deserves another chance to prove themselves to get it right.

Agreed 100%. Also, what happened about that cup of coffee?

But I´m not sure if some people don´t mistake this with not being firm in our opinions on important things, or being easily influenceable into giving up what we believe in or into giving up some moral values. Because IMO this is not a virtue, rather on the contrary.


It's completely true that we should stand up for our beliefs and opinions, but debates orientated around those tend to have neither a right or wrong answer and so it's harder to tell who is in the right and who is not.

I think the kind of situations that the OP is referring to are the ones in which a definite mistake has been made, such as making an error at work, or say if you were due to send a parcel to somebody by a certain date, but you sent it off late and then blamed the post when it didn't arrive at it's destination in time.

Generally, I think that we all know deep down when we're in the right or in the wrong about something. Sometimes we can try deluding ourselves that we didn't do anything wrong but deep down within ourselves we'll know that we did mess up somewhere. It's when people can't then admit to the wrongdoing that it gets annoying.
 

irish_bob

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Perhaps, but personally I think if you're wrong, you're wrong. If you know you're wrong about something you should admit it; it doesn't matter who's doing the accusing.

its all about the credibility of the accuser , your enemys will accuse you of being wrong even you save a baby from a burning building , being or doing wrong is often entirely subjective
 

twiggle

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its all about the credibility of the accuser , your enemys will accuse you of being wrong even you save a baby from a burning building , being or doing wrong is often entirely subjective

It's not about the accuser, it's whether or not you know deep down you made a mistake.
 

riche'lle

New member
Everyone has a built in ego that doesn't want to be bruised. If you ask me, that's how we succeed as people because believing in yourself is how you achieve stuff.

As for the people that never admit when they are wrong, they are insecure. There could multiple reasons why they are insecure.

i been dating a man for the last three years i swear his social behavior is awful.this is a man who is 52 years old ,and he will not admit he is wrong was wrong want even apologize he has every excuse in the book that it's other people.i honestly think it's a mental issue i really truly do.when your wrong your wrong you need to own up to it apologize for whatever and move pass it.i know i can't deal with it any more .his daughter called asked, him for some money but instead of just telling her he don't have it he of course gives her some lame excuse than he put it off on me like i told him she isn't my daughter and she damn sure didn't ask me for no money.
 

Nathália

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i been dating a man for the last three years i swear his social behavior is awful.this is a man who is 52 years old ,and he will not admit he is wrong was wrong want even apologize he has every excuse in the book that it's other people.i honestly think it's a mental issue i really truly do.when your wrong your wrong you need to own up to it apologize for whatever and move pass it.i know i can't deal with it any more .his daughter called asked, him for some money but instead of just telling her he don't have it he of course gives her some lame excuse than he put it off on me like i told him she isn't my daughter and she damn sure didn't ask me for no money.

That sounds extremely annoying....................


Me, I have to admit I'm wrong because I'm very sensitive. It will get to me and the situation will replay in my head over and over. So, I just come to people and tell them when I'm not right.
 
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WeirdyMcGee

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wrong = stupid

Or so we're raised to believe.
So-- admitting you are wrong ultimately means you are stupid and no one wants to admit they are stupid right?

That's how I think it works, anyways.
Ego, mostly. Human beings are all about the ego.

I already think I'm stupid, so I don't mind admitting when I'm wrong and apologizing.
I can't feel much smaller than I already do on a daily basis. haha
 

riche'lle

New member
That sounds extremely annoying....................


Me, I have to admit I'm wrong because I'm very sensitive. It will get to me and the situation will replay in my head over and over. So, I just come to people and tell them when I'm not right.

yes it very much is and he should know better he is 7 years older than myself
 

Ashiene

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Why do billions of people still believe in Creationism when Evolution has been proven countless times and the former has not even once?
 

Srijita52

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I agree with Weirdy its our ego that protects us from feeling bad about ourself. So whenever we do anything wrong we try to rationalise that it isn't as bad as it seems.
Btw you're in no way stupid Weirdy.
 
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