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Old 03-24-2008  
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I have been wondering, I have never been in a relationship, i am 26 years old and i have never kissed a girl. What the hell am i doing wrong? I really do not like going out to clubs, i really have no interests that gets me out of the house. I work all day come home and sleep basically. I have tried online dating, i have had no luck.

I like a few women, however i know that they are unavailable, and out of my reach. I have no guy friends that understand my problem, i am stuck in a black hole. Right now i feel like no matter what i do, its not good enough. I have posted my profile pic, i have done virtually everything, women seem to be repulsive of me. So its time that i should give up.
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lol. Online dating is based entirely off looks. So when someone judges you online, it's soley on your looks. Average or below looking guys need to display personality and/or intelligence along with status and wealth, and this can only be done in real life.

Online dating is only for the good looking.
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You not liking yourself is probably one of the reasons.
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so basically i am screwed then, because i don't have any of the attributes
See nothing seems to work, no matter what i try

I like myself just fine, i just HATE the fact that no worm like me, oh they say, you are so nice, but i am not interested... well that is bullshit. I don't want to be known as your an nice guy and all, but... we should only be friends. That makes me more mad than anything.

So how in the hell do people get married and in relationships? how? with all this bullshit out there, with the whole ****ing dating scheme, to all the relationship politics, no wonder the world is in the shape it is. Everything is too damned complicated. I really don't know how anyone can survive. I know i cannot, especially when there is absolutely NO interest from the female sex to be with me at all....
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Please give up the hope like the rest of us and realize that not all people were ever ment to be able to attract the opposite gender. I must tell you, when you say that you have no interrest, just geting home to sleep etc... don't you think that makes you a bit repulsive? I am just the same myself. I don't think it's strange that people does not want to spend time with me. I would not like that. Imagine meeting a girl who hates life does not want to do anything, would you really like that?

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so basically your tellng me that i am screwed?

I have no hope whatsoever?

your probably right, there isn't any hope at all
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Yes. (-,-) Like the rest of us. Is this thread really serious?

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Especially if you feel that your life is miserable.
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With what your doing, which is basically nothing, of course nothing is happen about this. You're probably waiting for people to come to you, people don't really do that much and there isn't even much opportunity for you to meet someone if you don't even have interests that get you out of the house. I don't really like online dating, I mean I don't know much about it what it seems to me that it'd be a lot better to meet a person like that in your real life. I don't know, maybe you should try just a little more because there are only so many people who can reject you, you have to get someone eventually if you just keep trying :/.
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Imagine finding someone that finds you interresting (friend or more) and then you talk about what you like/do in life and you say that you spend all day home doing nothing, no friends, no party on the weekends. Would that person find you interresting? This is something that bothers me when I (as rare as it can be) meet new people. I have to turn aroud these questions or (and) make up tiny lies. I don't like lying to people so it makes me feel bad. :( I wonder what my class mates thinks of me. :{

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lol. Online dating is based entirely off looks. So when someone judges you online, it's soley on your looks. Average or below looking guys need to display personality and/or intelligence along with status and wealth, and this can only be done in real life.

Online dating is only for the good looking.
That's not entirely true. I actually met someone online, and we were very interested in each other before we even exchanged pictures. We had many common interests and the same sense of humor. I met her a few times, and we had some great times together, but unfortunately I was too "damaged" for it to last. She wanted a boyfriend, not a project. I would rate myself as average or below average looks, btw.

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Imagine finding someone that finds you interresting (friend or more) and then you talk about what you like/do in life and you say that you spend all day home doing nothing, no friends, no party on the weekends. Would that person find you interresting? This is something that bothers me when I (as rare as it can be) meet new people. I have to turn aroud these questions or (and) make up tiny lies. I don't like lying to people so it makes me feel bad. :( I wonder what my class mates thinks of me. :{
I know the feeling. I hate lying to people, so now I'm just super honest, no matter how boring it makes me seem. I tell people the truth: that I spend most of my time at home, watching movies or tv-series. Some people appreciate honestly above everything, and you might be lucky enough to find someone with the same taste in music or movies. Sometimes that's all it takes to make a friend.

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I have been wondering, I have never been in a relationship, i am 26 years old and i have never kissed a girl. What the hell am i doing wrong? I really do not like going out to clubs, i really have no interests that gets me out of the house. I work all day come home and sleep basically. I have tried online dating, i have had no luck.

I like a few women, however i know that they are unavailable, and out of my reach. I have no guy friends that understand my problem, i am stuck in a black hole. Right now i feel like no matter what i do, its not good enough. I have posted my profile pic, i have done virtually everything, women seem to be repulsive of me. So its time that i should give up.
I think you've just been unlucky. Whatever you do, don't give up hope. I've been in your situation (except I wasn't working), and it can seem like there's no way out, but one day you just meet someone. Not necessarily "the one", but someone, at the very least.

If you have any interests at all, try searching in communities of people that share those interests. Hopefully, there's someone there who is searching for someone like you too.
EDIT: Creep_x makes a good point in the next post. Trying too hard usually results in failure.
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