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Old 03-11-2010  
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Default Why I like being alone.

You know, friends would be nice.

People, though, when they speak, their motives are questionable. By talking they might really be saying: Look at me, I need attention. Or I'm feeding my gargantuan ego by telling you this is way the world works. Or help me wallow in shame and disgust by accompanying me.

I have no friends and I am happy with it. It's peaceful when I don't hear unnecessary noise, besides it seems people like to talk at others rather than with others.

Maybe true talking is made without your tongue.

Honestly, has anyone reached that point of enjoying solitude? For clarity, I have not given up on building relationships, I've just accepted my current condition.

What, if anything, has anyone here accepted anyway?
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Old 03-11-2010  
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I accept the fact I only have a couple of friends. I accept the fact I prefer to stay in during the weekdays because I need to recoperate from work, so I just enjoy my evenings doing whatever relaxing activity I want.
I think its important to accept things about yourself, why fight yourself all the time? And control? Sometimes if you find acceptance you will gradually end up changing for the better.

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Old 03-11-2010  
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I understand what your saying...I've made friends with people who have ulterior motives and with people who are fake wannabes. They definetly make me feel that im better off alone. But I still hope for real friendship one day.
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Old 03-12-2010  
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If I have modicum of a social life, then I enjoy having some time alone to go along with it, perhaps more than most. But for me, year after year after year of isolation has been a hard, fruitless road. It's easy to judge others from the side, but subject to the social pressures of everyday life, we all exhibit some petty qualities. For me, one of the hard parts about being around people is that it can bring things out of me that I may want to deny are there. Despite everything, human contact is basically worthwile and necessary. Splinter or anyone else feel free to message me. I would like to try and be friends.

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Old 03-12-2010  
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I do enjoy being on my own most of the time, but sometimes I wish I had someone to do something with. I think it would be easier to leave the house if I didn't have to do everything alone. At the same time, I don't know how I could ever have friends. I'm so different from other people. Most people are drinking, etc. & I don't like drinking. I don't want to hang out with people who are drinking, either. My one "friend" was always trying to get me to drink (I gave in a few times & still feel bad about it), because that's considered "normal." I would love to have friends if I could find some more like me, but I don't think that's ever going to happen.

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Old 03-12-2010  
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I'd go as far as to say that I'm incapable of joy unless I'm on my own, but it's not quite that simple. How can I put this? - I enjoy being alone in the same way that an addict might enjoy heroin whilst being aware that the situation is out of their control and, ultimately, not good for them.

"Love looks forward, hate looks back, anxiety has eyes all over its head." - Mignon McLaughlin
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Old 03-12-2010  
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If I have modicum of a social life, then I enjoy having some time alone to go along with it, perhaps more than most. But for me, year after year after year of isolation has been a hard, fruitless road. It's easy to judge others from the side, but subject to the social pressures of everyday life, we all exhibit some petty qualities. For me, one of the hard parts about being around people is that it can bring things out of me that I may want to deny are there. Despite everything, human contact is basically worthwile and necessary. Splinter or anyone else feel free to message me. I would like to try and be friends.
I completly agree. Though I enjoy solitude very much I have come to realize that a life alone is almost meaningless. Just picture a person who goes to a beautiful exotic place and thinks how it would have been better to share this experience with someone else.
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Old 03-12-2010  
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I feel the same as you do. Normally people feel bad when they are alone but this works inversely on me. If i had a boogey man i wish a total solitude on my life
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Square eyes, I can relate to your statement. One problem I have is that, much like an addict, I need more and more in order for it to continue to work. For instance, in the middle of a heavy isolationist period, if the phone rings, or if I walk in front of an open window, it can ruin a lot of my day. If there's a knock on the door, forget about it.
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Old 03-13-2010  
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splinter i'm still open to friendships as much as i enjoy my own time i think that you can have friendships that are simply two people sharing each others company in fun, awkwardness, silence, whatever it is...to the point where you feel comfortable enough to not feel self conscious around them, and also its someone you can just do stuff with which is always nice right?! to be able to share experiences.....

but yeh i do enjoy spending time alone mainly because i dont feel self conscious alone, its one of the rare situations where i just feel relaxed..
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