Why is it wrong to love being alone?

I've been questioning this for a very long time, and i really don't understand why the average "normal" people think that if you are alone there is something wrong with you and you need to seek help.

This is really hard for me because everyone around me doesn't understand how happy I really am when i'm alone, it's like my own little world.

I'm really tired of explaining, or trying to pretend.

There is nothing wrong about being alone.. you got 1 life, you are suppose to live this life to the fullest doing things you love.

I work my *** off from Monday to Friday in a job that i really love which took me a long time to find, and i'm happy I did..

Now on weekends i want it to be my own time.. basically do nothing. and I don't understand why such a simple task i can't do. it stresses me out and i don't know anymore what to tell people,, how to make them back off.. and let me live my life doing the things i truly love.:thinking:

I feel exactly in this way. I read a book "The Power of Introverts" by Susan Cain. She talks about how some people NEED to be alone and how producer can be. There are in the book many example of people that prefer being alone. When i finished the book i realized that i'm not the only person in the world with this feeling hahahh And the most important, that is not wrong.


* Sorry for my grammar.

LAM said:

I feel exactly in this way. I read a book "The Power of Introverts" by Susan Cain. She talks about how some people NEED to be alone and how producer can be. There are in the book many example of people that prefer being alone. When i finished the book i realized that i'm not the only person in the world with this feeling hahahh And the most important, that is not wrong.


* Sorry for my grammar.

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I loved that book! I agree, if I don't get alone time on a daily basis, I find I get cranky

There is nothing 'wrong' with it at all. If you are truly happy thats all that matters.

Its another thing if you're asking why it isn't socially acceptable, or popular.

I say if it makes you happy, truly happy, and you aren't hurting anyone else, then do it!

I used to tell myself that I love being alone (I'm a loner with no friends) but as I've gotten older, I realize that I would like to be more like everyone else and have a contact or two that I can go to and discuss things with. My extreme loneliness has made me very depressed and anxious and I really don't like being alone for extended periods of time. Sure I love my alone time but I believe that too much of this can bring me into my head too much and that's never good.

I think it's just that other people are so socially-oriented that it's hard for them to imagine not wanting to be around people all the time. Comparatively, I can't imagine wanting to chat on the phone daily and go out 5-6 times a week.

Also, I think allot of people don't like to be alone with their own thoughts. I know quite a few people who love to run from themselves and consume themselves with the chatter of other people. I admire extroverts, as I couldn't see myself ever being that way. Though I don't like it when they find me being alone, strange.

It isn't wrong.

they lack empathy.

There's nothing wrong with wanting some alone time, I know after I've spent a hard day working I need time to decompress, it was the same at school, soon as I got home I went straight to my room for an hour or two. When you've been forced to be with people all day you need some time to gather your thoughts.

I have a lot of friends and colleagues that they envy me because I'm alone and I don't worry about share my stuff with my couple, but I think sometimes with need to share out spare time with someone, for example I used to go to the movies alone and a lot of times I felt so bad due to I saw the couples, families or group of friend, and then I saw myself alone. I think there's a difference between introvert and alone, and I rather be the first but I share characteristics from they both