Why is love, relationship and intimacy seen as so obvious?
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gobbledegook
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Yeah I don't understand them either. Those people probably can't count how many relationships they've been in and each one probably never lasted a long time anyway. They should probably look at themselves before they judge other people.
IWouldPreferNotTo
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Because it's so abnormal. I never tell anyone that I've never been in a serious relationship.
chris420
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Coz it's the main reason here on this planet...without SA/self-esteem issues most here would've been in relationships, it's natural
btw Kien I don't think anyone is 'unworthy' of love, if someone told you that would you believe them? I think most relationships come unexpectedly.
btw Kien I don't think anyone is 'unworthy' of love, if someone told you that would you believe them? I think most relationships come unexpectedly.
Argamemnon
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Because it's abnormal to spend your entire life alone. Men and women are made for each other. Besides, humans are social animals. Denying all this won't get us anywhere.
CyclingSoPhob
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I get kind of embarrassed just thinking of all the people I know knowing that they know I've never been in a relationship. Men and women are meant to be with each other. Let me just put it this way. Do you desire the opposite sex? If so then you're meant to be in a relationship. But that doesn't mean you're any less of a person if you aren't in a relationship. And if you're like me you'll have friends that think you don't deserve or will never be in a relationship. That alone should give you motivation to find a mate and prove them wrong. But if you really are not interesting in finding a partner you should just live your life the way you see fit and don't worry what everyone else thinks. I do think a mate would be good for everyone on here though as it is motivation for improving one's self.
TAMPA-BAY
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RELATIONSHIPS
I know exactly what you are talking about. Its not good or bad to be single or in a relationship. I like to think of it as a temporary condition. Nothing stays the same.
Most of those mainstreamers seem like they suffer from sepration anxiety.LOL They cant go a week with out being in a relationship so they just end up takeing the first thing that comes along and has a pulse. Thats why the divorce rate is so hi. People are alwayse in a hurry to hook up in a relationship. Whats the hurry i mean its a long life.
I am not saying we should avoid relationships and stay single; but , we need to ask our selves who are we getting into the rlationship for. Is it for us or to please people?
I know exactly what you are talking about. Its not good or bad to be single or in a relationship. I like to think of it as a temporary condition. Nothing stays the same.
Most of those mainstreamers seem like they suffer from sepration anxiety.LOL They cant go a week with out being in a relationship so they just end up takeing the first thing that comes along and has a pulse. Thats why the divorce rate is so hi. People are alwayse in a hurry to hook up in a relationship. Whats the hurry i mean its a long life.
I am not saying we should avoid relationships and stay single; but , we need to ask our selves who are we getting into the rlationship for. Is it for us or to please people?
coriander1992
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Humans are social beings by default...so it's only natural for "normal" people to assume that any human that isn't social or hasn't been in a relationship is abnormal.
ljwwriter
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chris420 said:
That pretty much sums it up. While we're always creating some silly purpose, (that's the way I feel about it anyway), for our existence on this planet in our own minds, the real reason we're here is to mate and reproduce. End of story.
Fortunately, these days people are so emotionally selfish and distant that I'm quite certain other people will hardly take notice of the fact that a person has never been in a relationship, contrary to what that person may believe. I'm always hearing people putting down marriage, love, and relationships these days. They act as if intimacy is a waste of precious time and that relations with others should consist of, at most, quick sexual encounters.
Nowadays it's all about career and self-gain and then, when the biological clock is about to stop ticking, hastily and rather selfishly trying to jump-start a family with a partner one doesn't actually love. That and meaningless one night stands.
Other than that, relationships just don't seem to be as fancied as they once were. I suppose that's good for those of us who have never been in one and can't imagine we ever will be. At least we won't be all alone when we find that we have no choice but to set our sights on hobbies and career pursuits to help pass the long, long years.
caitlynx
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ljwwriter said:
This is depressing but kinda true. It seems that we've built a culture of instant gratification and endless choice/freedom in which people have become selfish when it comes to relationships. If a relationship or person isn't perfect or doesn't suit our purposes exactly how we want it, then we just discard it.