Why won't he ask me out?

mamma

Member
Is there a possibility that a guy is so insecure that he would love a girl from afar rather than risk being with her? Why? We've known each other for 2 years, I've asked him out and he never answered but then two years on he still thinks I don't know he added me on facebook under a fake profile just to spy on me. I know this for a fact (I saw him logged into the fake account on his phone) before anyone asks. I tried to add him as a friend on there 2 years ago and he just left it pending... Also, he has sent me a few emails in the past saying some songs that relate to us - love songs, saying he loves me etc.

He's had a bad past, abusive. He seems to have no problems dating a couple of girls who seemed very immature and who he does not seem to like at all. He always looks miserable around them. The second one he got with just after I got a boyfriend after I tried again to get close and he just didn't respond.

He has said it's like I can see into him and read him like a book and it scares him to be that vulnerable. But that's why he loves me, because I understand him. But then he gets with girls who are the complete opposite of me...

Is it possible that a man can be so insecure that even though he loves a girl, he will be too scared to go for it? But will then just get with girls he has next to no feelings for?
 

shyflower

Well-known member
Some people you just don't need to be wasting your time on. They get close to you and they say they like you and butter you all up like you are that one and only special person, but in reality they are looking for something else to come along. I knew a guy who told me how I was all of these wonderful things and then 3 months later he is with this older woman. He never wanted to be affectionate towards me in any way, but then one night I saw both of them out together and they had not known each other that long .. and there they were all over each other like two frogs mating on a lilypad. People like that...just tell them to F*** off..( and that was another guys advice I took).. and so I did!
 
Some people you just don't need to be wasting your time on. They get close to you and they say they like you and butter you all up like you are that one and only special person, but in reality they are looking for something else to come along. I knew a guy who told me how I was all of these wonderful things and then 3 months later he is with this older woman. He never wanted to be affectionate towards me in any way, but then one night I saw both of them out together and they had not known each other that long .. and there they were all over each other like two frogs mating on a lilypad. People like that...just tell them to F*** off..( and that was another guys advice I took).. and so I did!

This seems more like the possible explanation come to think about it
 

nerdgirl178

Well-known member
Is there a possibility that a guy is so insecure that he would love a girl from afar rather than risk being with her? Why? We've known each other for 2 years, I've asked him out and he never answered but then two years on he still thinks I don't know he added me on facebook under a fake profile just to spy on me. I know this for a fact (I saw him logged into the fake account on his phone) before anyone asks. I tried to add him as a friend on there 2 years ago and he just left it pending... Also, he has sent me a few emails in the past saying some songs that relate to us - love songs, saying he loves me etc.

He's had a bad past, abusive. He seems to have no problems dating a couple of girls who seemed very immature and who he does not seem to like at all. He always looks miserable around them. The second one he got with just after I got a boyfriend after I tried again to get close and he just didn't respond.

He has said it's like I can see into him and read him like a book and it scares him to be that vulnerable. But that's why he loves me, because I understand him. But then he gets with girls who are the complete opposite of me...

Is it possible that a man can be so insecure that even though he loves a girl, he will be too scared to go for it? But will then just get with girls he has next to no feelings for?

Do you really want to be with a guy who doesn't have the courage to say he loves you and wants to be with you? Life is too short to hide and be afraid all the time. Or he may not really like you at all, maybe he likes to flirt. It sounds like this guy really likes you but is not in love with you. He doesn't sound like a catch :). Move on.
 
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