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Old 11-24-2012
 

I have been dating my girlfriend for about 2 months. Since it has gotten more serious (holding hands, arms around each other), I have noticed a lot of women making eye contact and smiling at me when we are out together. This is opposed to when I am alone, when women never make eye contact with me. Can any women explain why this is? Am I more attractive because I have a woman with me? I don't consider a woman more attractive when she is with a man. Quite the opposite in fact. This is very strange to me.
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Perhaps they just think you two look cute togeher
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Perhaps they just think you two look cute togeher
ALthough I have no idea being a man I was thinking the same thing.
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ALthough I have no idea being a man I was thinking the same thing.
Never been with a woman before, so I have no idea. I can relate to the alone part though, so all I have to say is...

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Yeah I agree with Hellhound. They probably just think it's romantic and feel happy for you and your girlfriend. Some people just like seeing couples together.
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Am I more attractive because I have a woman with me?
Of course! For one, it shows that you are good enough to be with someone, you are not the lonely creep any more in their eyes, so they check you out. Also, the dating/relationship stuff is a competitive sport. The basic instinct behind this is to have the best available genetic material to yourself, and don't let others to have it.
Of course, these are just the basics, in the reality, it is much more fine, distilled, and there are probably a hundred more things to consider. But it is a well known fact, that you are more attractive when you are in a relationship.
I guess you are also a bit more confident, happier, and those are also attractive things.
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I notice this too. I do seem to ratchet up a couple notches in other girls eyes when I'm out walking with one. But I usually feel more confident and less afraid to interact. I do sometimes look with the mindset you can't interpret my interaction another way because I'm standing right here with another girl. Maybe that cuts both ways. And the girl you're with almost makes it safe for them to show their minds out loud. But I do find the looking more forward, and not cute couple type.
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Aron got it all right.
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as a woman i will admit that i will check out men that are with woman rather than those that are alone
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the other thing is that other women may feel more comfortable/relaxed in your presence and can let down their guard, because they don't feel like you are going to approach them, and they don't have to compete for your attention
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speaking as a female: don't flatter yourself. you are not more attractive because you have a girlfriend!

1. my eyes tend to be drawn to couples because there's not just one person there, there's two. more mass. (especially if they are in my way).

2. they are probably looking at your girlfriend and it's happenstance they are also catching you catching them checking out your girlfriend. surprise.

3. if a couple passes by me, of the two, it is easier to meet eyes with the guy, rather than the girl, just because guys are usually more friendly [to me].
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and what coyote said.
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It's sort of the opposite for me. When I see couples, I have an easier time looking at the woman than the man because if I look at the man, the woman might think I'm checking him out and competing with her. But most likely, I don't get too close to couples.
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It's sort of the opposite for me. When I see couples, I have an easier time looking at the woman than the man because if I look at the man, the woman might think I'm checking him out and competing with her. But most likely, I don't get too close to couples.
yeah, i'll naturally look towards the male initially and then immediately look away so as not to offend the female. lol primates.
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speaking as a female: don't flatter yourself. you are not more attractive because you have a girlfriend!

1. my eyes tend to be drawn to couples because there's not just one person there, there's two. more mass. (especially if they are in my way).

2. they are probably looking at your girlfriend and it's happenstance they are also catching you catching them checking out your girlfriend. surprise.

3. if a couple passes by me, of the two, it is easier to meet eyes with the guy, rather than the girl, just because guys are usually more friendly [to me].
I agree with what Coyote said too, but the rest of your post seems to think it's unlikely he's drawing more attention or attraction-type attention just because he's with a girl. And while I agree with Coyote too, I think that relaxation and letting down of the guard because of the other girl allows them to show an attraction and interest. The girlfriend is a buffer that makes it safe and more ambiguous. It's like when girls hang around with a guy friend who they know isn't going to hit on them, or staring at that girl/guy as the bus is passing by. These things make it safe and or harder to be called out.
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I agree with what Coyote said too, but the rest of your post seems to think it's unlikely he's drawing more attention or attraction-type attention just because he's with a girl. And while I agree with Coyote too, I think that relaxation and letting down of the guard because of the other girl allows them to show an attraction and interest. The girlfriend is a buffer that makes it safe and more ambiguous. It's like when girls hang around with a guy friend who they know isn't going to hit on them, or staring at that girl/guy as the bus is passing by. These things make it safe and or harder to be called out.
i agree with you, it takes down a buffer when it comes to actually socializing. he is not suddenly more attractive. he is more approachable. there is a big difference.
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i agree with you, it takes down a buffer when it comes to actually socializing. he is not suddenly more attractive. he is more approachable. there is a big difference.
So maybe he's more attractive without a girlfriend than he thinks?
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On the flip side, I never look at women who are with men.
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So maybe he's more attractive without a girlfriend than he thinks?
no, you miss my point and equate being approached with being attractive. just because a female looks at you or talks to you doesn't mean she is attracted to you.

you really think all these women were secretly waiting in the wings, attracted to this guy, and suddenly because he has a girlfriend they are salivating at the chance to "safely" talk to him?! that is ridiculous. i'm not saying it doesn't happen. but this just sounds a bit over the top, don't you think?

this guy is more approachable (on a platonic level) with a girlfriend. people like friendly people. that's all there is to it.
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no, you miss my point and equate being approached with being attractive. just because a female looks at you or talks to you doesn't mean she is attracted to you.

you really think all these women were secretly waiting in the wings, attracted to this guy, and suddenly because he has a girlfriend they are salivating at the chance to "safely" talk to him?! that is ridiculous. i'm not saying it doesn't happen. but this just sounds a bit over the top, don't you think?

this guy is more approachable (on a platonic level) with a girlfriend. people like friendly people. that's all there is to it.
No, I didn't miss your point, I simply didn't agree with it all. I was looking for where we met and diverged. I don't think anybody is "waiting in the wings", and I do think it makes someone more approachable. And sometimes that approachability allows them to exhibit an attraction if there is one. Sometimes through manner. I don't know that he's more attractive, but that it allows a person to "unhide", or as Pete Townsend puts it in Eminence Front, "forget they're hiding". We don't wear ourselves on our sleeves all the time. And I think in these occurrences people can "forget" to, as the reasons to seem to vanish.
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