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07-04-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
I'm usually a very forgiving person, but i will never be able to forgive three specific people.
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07-04-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
I don't know..I kinda sorta hate them from the first time they bothered me.
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07-04-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
I tend to hold grudges, so I don't think I would forgive a bully. It also depends on what they bullied me for.
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11-21-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
I will never forgive any of them as long as I live. I spent all of my school years being tortured by them, why should I forgive them?
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11-21-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
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Originally Posted by GanglyCritter
I will never forgive any of them as long as I live. I spent all of my school years being tortured by them, why should I forgive them?
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Forgiveness is the beginning of letting go.
Although there are some I will never forgive, too.
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11-21-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
Whether it's healthy or not, I'm afraid no I can't forgive them. I'm not saying that because I'm a vindictive or hateful person, just because it caused me too much pain and led to far too many longterm issues which I still can't get over. In the absence of severe mistreatment during my teenage years I believe I may have been able to overcome my traumatic childhood.
I ran into one of my teenage bullies the other day at the swimming pool, he was a lifeguard or attendant or something. I was seething when I saw him. My locker happened to break and he was the staff member who came to fix it. Honestly while he was fixing it I felt the urge to smash his head into the locker. That doesn't make me a bad person, but why would I forgive someone who had such a pronounced negative effect on my way of thinking? It doesn't make any sense to.
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11-21-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
I would, but they would have to earn that forgiveness
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11-21-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
i never thought i would. but ive been able to forgive someone who did what i consider to be the most horrible event of my life. Its only been recently, but its been a very healing experience. And im feeling like a better person because of it.
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I don't believe in pessimism. If something doesn't come up the way you want, forge ahead. If you think it's going to rain, it will.
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Real courage is being scared to death, and saddling up anyway
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"Break the bones and the body will heal. Break the spirit and the body will die"
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11-21-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
I would prefer not to see them again or have anything to do with them again because it would bring back horrible memories. But, like people say, time heals and I eventually, I will forgive them.
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11-21-2012
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Re: Would you forgive bullies years later
Eeh... I don't know. Even if they were truly nice, it doesn't instantly make everything that happened invalid. In this case, we aren't talking about some name calling or a stolen pencil, we are talking about my whole school life being messed up.
The whole class hated me for no reason, they went from name calling to beating me up. This happened every day, non-stop. I was the toy of the class, they really had nothing else to do but pick on me. I just can't forgive that.
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