would you talk to a lonely person?

no1

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Would anyone talk to a person who looks or seems lonely? Or would you leave them by themselves?
 

worrywort

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definitely! I always feel so drawn to lonely people. Infact, troubled people in general I really like to be around. I just want them to tell me all their problems so that I can give them a big hug and tell them everythings gonna be ok! [probably something psychological going on here...i.e. maybe i really just wanna hug myself and tell myself everythings gonna be ok?!]

the only problem I sometimes find with lonely people is that it's hard to read their signals, whether their silence or avoidance of me is because they don't like me or because they're shy. I know with me it's 99% of the time because I'm shy. But I guess it's better to risk being made a fool or rejected, if there's a possibility you could really connect with another lonely person.
 

dottie

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if i was at work and it was a lonely coworker- yes.

if i was out in public in some random place- no. i don't usually talk to anyone.
 
I Probably wouldn't because I never ever ever ever ever ever approach anyone. But between a group of people and a lonely person I would for sure pick a lonely person.
 

Helyna

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I try to. It started out because I knew a person who was alone would want a friend, but now it's a habit, and I like to think I'm helping someone by paying attention to her.
 

Agitprop

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I agree completely with worrywort. I usually imagine that the person might be experiencing the same thing I am, although I get the feeling this is often not the case, and want to talk to that person.
 

enmascarado

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I would leave them alone. Usually, when people are by themselves, it makes me think they're just thinking about something and don't want to be bothered. I never feel like I'm passing up a chance to meet someone. I've never met anyone else who seems as anxious as me.


EDIT: I just met someone in school who is extremely anxious. We had to pair up in one class, and, naturally, I just sat there while everyone else moved to sit beside someone. I got partnered up with this guy, I still don't know his name or anything. Anyways, we had to talk of course. When he talked, I could barely hear him, he looked very nervous. I know this isn't supposed to be a good thing, but it is for me. As I posted before, I've never met anyone else like this. So weird.

I don't even know why I'm posting this, this is an old thread, no one's going to read it. Just feel like writing I guess. :)
 
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Sacrament

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Sure, why not?

A couple of years ago, I was coming back from getting a haircut or something (on foot) and there was this girl sitting down in a strange place, seeming to be lonely and sad. A big part of me wanting to say hi, sit next to her and ask why she looked sad, but I didn't, and I wish I had.
 

lyricalliaisons

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Like, Halycon, I wouldn't be able to. But, for me, even if I could, I don't know if I would. It might sound mean to some people, but.... I've been on the receiving end numerous times throughout my life & I hate it. It's horrible & I just want people to leave me alone. This has happened to me ever since elementary school & I'm almost 27 now. It just increases my anxiety & makes me really mad. I know people are just trying to be nice, but they would seem much nicer to me if they just left me alone. I'm sure a lot of other people who have been on the receiving end of this feel the same way. I know I can't be the only one.
 

grakovsky

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i would definately do it if I was sure he/she (well prob. not she cause Im a pussy) was kinda shy and lonely. Just talking to them and being the one to talk to them first would give me experience in talking to people and would provide me with a small ego boost
 

Akira

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I wouldn't. I don't trust people's perception and motives, and I wouldn't expect them to trust mine.
 

Quasimodo

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Every time I think I see a lonely person...they somehow can read my mind and start using there phone...and I mean every time...and it pisses me off cause for that little moment id think to myself ...see your not the only one thats completly alone... Then they take out there freakkin social devices.
 

Walk

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It's frustrating because whenever I saw someone lonely, I tried talking to them and start a little conversation. But it rarely happened the other way. I guess due to the vibes I might have been sending, people rarely told me in class while I was sitting alone "hey, come hang out with us.." Maybe I looked stuck up or selfish. In reality, I was ACHING for someone to just tell me, "let's hang out".

The one or two times it did happen that people asked me to hang out, I STUPIDLY declined.

Also, if I would've been just a little more talkative, I'm sure I could've made friends... one of the worst things of SA is the level of regret I carry with myself. I just can't get over the fact that a lot of my life's problems could've been dealt with if I just tried a LITTLE harder.
 

Walk

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JonnyD said:
if they spoke to me i could teach algebra and cite hamlet to them....

Try being an after school tutor for high school/junior high.

I want to do that, but I forget a lot of my algebra within a few months :/

All the matrices and synthetic division, logarithm rules... don't remind me!

Few things are more appreciative than a patient math tutor for a person who's not that good at math, I'll tell you that.
 
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