Don't you hate

Soulspectre

Soulspectre

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Don't you hate that with all this crap that we go through everyday that it just comes so easily to some people. With me it feels like I have to devote a lifetime to get over this, but to some it's as easy as riding a bike. They've got no worries like we do and they have the potential to live their dreams and talk to people like it's the easiest thing in the world. AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! It drives me insane sometimes.
 
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Klaus

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The entire world is like that.
That's why sports, parties and clothes are so overrated.
Lol...
 
no1

no1

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yes... especially when people say that relationships, and opportunities, and success comes to them like it was meant to be, and they didn't have to do much but wait for it to come to them, like it was divinely ordained by God or something. When they go through hardship, it is pre-determined to get better. It WILL get better, for that is the ONLY possibility, because naturally problems are supposd to sort themselves out. And I doubt anything like "positive thinking" had anything to do with it.

yet here I am trying hard, trying to be "good" and nothing "good" has occured yet .. Like.. I feel like there is something in the way of everything that was supposed to have occured "naturally" like the others. Maybe my life is unfixable, I have gone too far, and there's no way out. I guess I'm just not "one of them", or the "laws of nature" simply do not apply to me.

I feel like I have no soul or spirit in this world/life.

then again I might be biased and overly negative right now. sorry. but hey I'm speaking the truth. my life is damn empty, no other way around that, and it has been far too long.
 
Havocan

Havocan

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Yeah, they don't know how easy they have it when they can choose who they want to be with, what they want to do and when without going through great stress and efforts of building up enough self-esteem to commit certain actions. Whether it is picking up that cute cashier at the shop, ringing a possible work manager or go down to the mall to make a complaint about the remote control not working on your newly purchased TV {that's me tomorrow >.<.}.

On the other hand the SA may help us in the way that it's showing us that we have to work hard to archive our goals, when we finally get there in the end it's not because we were lucky or because it was bound to happen, but because we overcame our fears and took the right steps.

Still, it's a shame that it prevents us from doing such a simple thing as picking up a girl -__-.
 
BashfulDoll

BashfulDoll

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i agree. i mean i don't get it sometimes i just think. what the hell did i do to possibly deserve this??? i don't drink or do drugs, im not a criminal, i've never even cursed some out, im still a virgin LOL why does God hate me??? I mean i would understand if this whole SP thing just happened but it's been my whole life, shy with anxiety. year after year never getting better...

i hate people :cry:
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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BashfulDoll:

I totally understand and completely agree with you. I have lived more than twice your age saying the same thing you just did.... "why does God hate me?" and "what did I do to possibly deserve this????" I will be 41 this year, and it has not gotten any better since I was very young around the age of 6 I remember getting bad stomach aches around groups of people. Even my own relatives, cousins I was afraid to talk to adults for fear that I would say something stupid.... So I just wouldn't say anything to anyone. I avoided communication with most people. This is a very lonely life. Long have I desired to be with a female, since I was 6 I have wanted a g/f. Now that I am 41, I am "creepy" because by now I should have had allot of experiences and I have none... I am even scared of the thought of kissing someone, for fear that I would do it "wrong". Even making love scares me too for the same reasons. Why must we suffer so???
 
NothingElseMatters

NothingElseMatters

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Soulspectre said:
Don't you hate that with all this crap that we go through everyday that it just comes so easily to some people. With me it feels like I have to devote a lifetime to get over this, but to some it's as easy as riding a bike. They've got no worries like we do and they have the potential to live their dreams and talk to people like it's the easiest thing in the world. AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! It drives me insane sometimes.
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you think they dont have worries?wake up dude.the only difference is that they do something about it.when u see a person for 2 minutes and he looks happy u dont know what he is doing the other 23hours 58 min
 
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doesit

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I could agree with all you here and say i am a good person and why this happens to me.But now think about people who loose their legs at war,who are born with mental ilness,or someone who dies at age 10 or whatever.all those examples i wrote are not to show you how lucky you are but to realize that life isnt a fare game and god wont hel you here.
 
nephatitus

nephatitus

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sure there are many things i hate but the way i deal with those hateful things in a positive sense can make me a better person for tommorow, just for the sake of self improvement
 
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mikestar

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everyone has problems even tho it seems like they dont,others can cope and get through whilst others have difficulties. You just think your anxiety is 100 times worst than everyone else and your the only one having problems. I think like that alot but I have woken up a bit since Ive been in a psych hospital and even reading this forum,that some people do have PROBLEMS.

I do get jealous tho when im out and about and see people enjoying and making most out of life,i say wish that was me.
 
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Fighter86

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People mention God isn't fair, life isn't fair, which I agree. I however don't believe much in God, I believe if you want to create miracles, you need to create them yourself because God is too busy creating other miracles elsewhere.
 
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Illusions

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It's not fair, yep, how some people have it easy while the rest of us here have to struggle with the smallest tasks. I used to get depressed thinking about this.

What I noticed is that the more outgoing people I know are also the ones who face lots of problems relating to their personal lives. Basically it's not just us; we all have problems, only in different contexts.

Anyway, truth is, the world IS unfair. There's never any equity. I guess we just have to live with it and try to take control of our lives as much as we can.
 
Skatergirl

Skatergirl

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I know what you mean, people who do not have this, dont experience it as the same way,
they just have not the social thing, and it's easy for them.
sometimes it's hard to explain to people what social anxiety really is like.
it's not easy at all..
 
sabbath9

sabbath9

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When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,
When you're sure you've had enough of this life, well hang on
Don't let yourself go, 'cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes

Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it's time to sing along
When your day is night alone, (hold on, hold on)
If you feel like letting go, (hold on)
When you think you've had too much of this life, well hang on

'Cause everybody hurts. Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts. Don't throw your hand. Oh, no. Don't throw your hand
If you feel like you're alone, no, no, no, you are not alone

If you're on your own in this life, the days and nights are long,
When you think you've had too much of this life to hang on

Well, everybody hurts sometimes,
Everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes
And everybody hurts sometimes. So, hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on
Everybody hurts. You are not alone
 
Lea

Lea

Banned
no1 said:
yes... especially when people say that relationships, and opportunities, and success comes to them like it was meant to be, and they didn't have to do much but wait for it to come to them, like it was divinely ordained by God or something. When they go through hardship, it is pre-determined to get better. It WILL get better, for that is the ONLY possibility, because naturally problems are supposd to sort themselves out. And I doubt anything like "positive thinking" had anything to do with it.

yet here I am trying hard, trying to be "good" and nothing "good" has occured yet .. Like.. I feel like there is something in the way of everything that was supposed to have occured "naturally" like the others. Maybe my life is unfixable, I have gone too far, and there's no way out. I guess I'm just not "one of them", or the "laws of nature" simply do not apply to me.

I feel like I have no soul or spirit in this world/life.

then again I might be3 biased and overly negative right now.sorry. but they I'm speaking the truth. my life is damn empty, no other way around that, andit has been far too long.
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Exactly, exactly. I've had the same thoughts. As if some people jumped right after the birth in the right current which keeps carrying them through life, we didn't. Now, as we did go too far on the wrong track (if it was any track at all), the more difficult is to change anything, because to do that, we would have to go back to where we started and jump on the right train, because we just can't go over to the railway now as there is a thick fence.
 
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Krista

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Soulspectre said:
Don't you hate that with all this crap that we go through everyday that it just comes so easily to some people. With me it feels like I have to devote a lifetime to get over this, but to some it's as easy as riding a bike. They've got no worries like we do and they have the potential to live their dreams and talk to people like it's the easiest thing in the world. AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! It drives me insane sometimes.
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It's really hard to not be envious of the people who get everything they want with ease, like everything just comes so natural to them. I would constantly sit and think about if I looked a certain way, acted a certain way I would have the same thing but it's not the case. Some people are just lucky, they're complete bastards for it but it's how things work. I'm not saying that you should just live with it but you could have the same thing. We just have to try a little bit harder for that, in the end I know that I earned it more than they ever did and I feel better about what I have after. If I just sat around and kept wishing for the things that came to others so easily I would have nothing but bitterness and regret after for wasting my time. I'm making things happen for myself because I can't complain about how sh*tty my life is when I'm not doing anything with it. After awhile it stops becoming everyone elses fault and becomes yours.
 
Luke1993

Luke1993

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Soulspectre said:
Don't you hate that with all this crap that we go through everyday that it just comes so easily to some people. With me it feels like I have to devote a lifetime to get over this, but to some it's as easy as riding a bike. They've got no worries like we do and they have the potential to live their dreams and talk to people like it's the easiest thing in the world. AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! It drives me insane sometimes.
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I can't actually ride a bike lol
 
Anubis

Anubis

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Krista said:
It's really hard to not be envious of the people who get everything they want with ease, like everything just comes so natural to them.
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I don't think successful people get everything with ease (I know some people who are pursuing high-$$ careers and they constantly complain about lack of sleep and stress). But they do seem to have a higher tolerance for frustration. They can usually withstand huge setbacks and still be determined enough to pursue their goals. With us, the simplest setback just devastates us. I don't know if it's simply a psychological problem, or if it has biological roots, but it's very discouraging.
 
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