Dont You Hate It When "Normal" People Complain?

What a luxury. They dont know how lucky they are, i dont understand why people complain though they have no social problems. Life is beautiful, if i hadnt had SP, i would be a very happy person im sure, which i was before i developed it.

But everyone has problems.... Other "normal people" may not have SP, but they have other things, other insecurities, other worries...

What i wanna say is we also have those problems plus we have a very big disability too and compared to SP/SA no problem is a problem at all.

They complain about their job, when they should be glad that they have one, cos i dont.

They complain about their gf/bfs, when i have never had one, you know, and the list goes on.

They just dont know how lucky they are...

You know what I hate even more, when they brag about how successful they are, and look down on us, like we have something wrong with us, like ooh, social phobia, better not catch that (even though you can't catch it obviously)

Emma said:

like ooh, social phobia, better not catch that (even though you can't catch it obviously)

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lol emma :lol:

I kind of know what you are saying. And to some extent I think you are right and life isn't fair. Some people do get the short end of the sitck.

But may I also suggest this idea... Probably most if not all people are similar to us. If they are different it is only because their faults are not showing up and they can hide them better and the world allows them to.

We, on the other hand, have our vulnerabilities laid bare for anyone to see.

But if you look closely at people and 'come into your own' as people call it (which means life will shape you and a person gets confident of being an individual just through life), you'll likely get to see that other people are vulnerable as well. You'll see through the disguise -the appearance of things -the outside illusions. And you'll know with clarity that you are not truly weaker or even therefore disadvantaged. -You'll see through other peoples' disguises because you will have known who you your self are and will see through the meaningless things to what matters about you.

You know that it is just a question of time before everything is turned upside down -and the weakest are the strongest and the strongest are the weakest.
This is a challenging thing to believe in but I know for a fact that an individual with a bigger than average weakness is an individual with a bigger than average strength. ...And vice versa is true for all those people who seem to be getting life easy and taking it all for granted.
And I also know that small differences make those big differences that we see on the outside. -This is why prejudice exists -because people only distance themselves from others with whom they are closer to emotionally than they can handle. Therefore: big outside differences originate from smaller emotional differences within.

Anyhow, I understand your point of view and I know what you mean. BUt I also know that it is all a question of TIME. ANd that with time, everything gets turned upside down and inside out.
And I know this because this has happened to me once before and I've seen it happen to others also.

I guess I don't qualify as a proper social phobic, so I am probably considered one of the "normal ones", LOL. And I can be a piece of whiner sometimes. I also hate it when people complain although they have all they need to be happy. But you know, the reason why people complain is that they FEEL unhappy. And you cannot blame anyone for how they feel. Maybe they really are so lucky and maybe the life really is so wonderful, but you cannot make anyone see it if they aren't able to. Learning to be happy is not an easy lesson. At all.

everyone complains and ....
everyone has problems and ....
no one is normal

I complain, in my head, through my attitude, or outwardly if i let myself
But it is when i see the good in myself and in other people I don't feel like I have a reason to complain.

My problems are clear. Human nature is that we are not perfect and we're going to have problems and how we react to the problems. I don't say "poor me" that I have problems.
The people that act like they have it all together, are the ones to say "poor them"... Poor them, they're unhappy and they don't even know it. They're too dillusinal and self righteous to notice.

Anyone who claims to be normal, I'm not so sure if I'd want to meet them. What is normal anyway? It sounds kind of boring. I want meet people I can learn from. And people who are REAL and genuine with those around them. I don't trust people who claim this and who claim there is such a thing.

Yeah...this frustrates me as well...one main reason being that I can never get myself to express my problems in the ways they do. They just come right out and say it...I do find it amusing how trivial the problems they complain about sound though. I just think to myself that it would be great to have them deal with my mind for a day...I would like to see how they would react, what they would do. I'm always afraid that if I vocalize my problems, I will just scare people away, so I just keep it all to myself wishing I could complain about them. That didn't make much sense...meh...whatever.

yeah i fuckin do hate it when people complain, people who havent been through or have mental illnesses. especially when they're like 'oh this shop is soo retareded they dont have this top in pink!' jackass. :roll:

Hey Toad, I see you like Yoda!!!! :wink: :lol:

...how about this Yoda quote: "...never his mind on where he was! -what he was doing! -humpfth!!!" (I think it is a good one for me just like Mindfulness is what I am focussing on)

this is what Yoda says when he pokes Luke Skywalker on the shoulder with his finger!!!

....so cute, so small and yet so wise!!!

Id like to have one of them live in my shoes for a day, then theyd never complain.

i would'nt even let something as unimportant as that take any of my time up.

No, it doesn't bother me at all, because everyone in life has problems of their own. Contrary to what some want to believe, no one group has it worse than others. I don't mind complaning, but what annoys me is constant complaining. Sure, life is hard. Our future is blurry. And being around people and dealing with them can get downright frustrasting and irritating. But sometimes sitting there complaning and feeling sorry for yourself won't get you anywhere in life.

Doesn't bother me,every one has pain and suffering,it's just a fact of being human.(Normal) people can have just as many problems as us.I think in a lot of situations some people are just better at hiding it then others or there pain is in area of their life ,that might not be obvious to someone that only knows a (normal) person in a casual way.

Yes some people here have problems,that are worst then your average person but you have to play the cards you have been dealt but try not to compare your self to other people.There's millions of people that have it worse then anyone here could even imagine,not that it invalidates any one pain here but you should keep that in mind.In the end,you have to try for the best you can.Almost any problem can be over come but it takes time and a lot of hard work. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.

It's hard to do that though,I know I'm a really a big hypocrite because I do a lot of this stuff my self:: .I have to remind my self,a lot of the time not to do it because I seem to slip naturally into that kind of thinking.

Almost everyone on this earth fears failure. Extroverts just fear failing at other things (that you may not fear). I have a friend who gets anxious at the thought of studying, yet has no problem talking to dozens of people at the same time (and people of authority to boot). I, on the other hand, do not get so anxious about studying but I have a difficult time talking to even one person. And forget people of authority.

It's the human struggle. Like septor said, you have to play your hands now. And hopefully in a few rounds, you can catch that "card" that will improve your hand in the future. But everyone's hands has a weakness. So it's really an endless game lol. It's worth the effort though.

Everyone has problems....probably the really big ones are the things they are not complaining about!! I doubt mine are any worse!

When im complaining my mum brings up all the people who are starving in the world etc...and im always like, yes but right now all i can see is my problems. So i reckon it might be the same for everyone...to us our problems feel huge and everyone elses are insignificant in comparison....but its not the reality.

I bet people with brain tumors or aids think why the hell social phobics complain too.

People who are in wheelchairs probably look at us and think ''they are so lucky able to use their legs''

I think that people want what they dont have, but i think if you have the ability to win people over with your personality looks and physical strength are overlooked, but i haven't got that ability and i am jealous of people who are ''normal''

Oh please, cry me a river. First of all, I don't like putting ourselves down, like calling ourselves 'abnormal'. I consider you and me as normal human beings with issues. There's nothing abnormal about us.

Second, we ALL have issues. Has it ever crossed your mind that there are people out there with cancer, aids, disambiguations etc. They probably look at you and think: 'I have it far worse than you do.'

In the past, I used to get jealous when I saw happy people in love with each other, especially during the summer. Now seeing other people happy makes me happy for them. I'm glad some people are enjoying their lives, even though I find it hard to enjoy mine.