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Do any of you hang out with 'friends' who treat you badly?
And if you have the choice between having no friends, or being friends with someone who looks down on you and disrespects you, which would you choose?
Where exactly should we draw the line? I realise that no friendship is perfect, and friends will offend each other from time to time, but I feel that a certain acquantaince of mine is stepping way over the line in many of our interactions.
For example, he will ask me to go into the city with him to a bar - but literally 20 seconds after we get our drinks he will walk off and leave me by myself! And YES he knows I suffer from SA and claims to understand.
As soon as he sees his more important friends, he ditches me. But then every now and then he will wander over to me to try and tell me it's my turn to buy drinks (WTF?). I feel like saying "F*ck off, I'm not even the one you are drinking with!". He seems to think that he can get away with treating me how he likes, and that I will not stand up for myself.
He won't even introduce me to his other friends, and keeps me seperate from them in all circumstances, even at his house. I think if he's that embarassed to be seen around me, he should just leave me alone.
This is just one example of the sort of thing he does, I won't bore you with other stories. Let's just say that when I have contact with him, he offends me more often than not.
So, for a while now I have been ignoring most of his phonecalls and text messages. I have done it so many times that I thought he would have got the message by now. BUT he thinks I don't return his calls much just because of my anxiety lol!
Now I feel like I've got to do something to end this 'friendship' but don't know how to do it without appearing like an a**hole, and I'm concerned that it may affect my relationship with a mutual friend.
Big smiley face from redski....This seems fair to me...
in my first year of high school I was "befriended" by some guy who ended up cuffing me to a dog's cage, hit me with a stick on fire and who tried to gouge one of my eyes out.
Do any of you hang out with 'friends' who treat you badly?
And if you have the choice between having no friends, or being friends with someone who looks down on you and disrespects you, which would you choose?
Somehow I always tend to end up with these kind of people and I am 29 and...
Also at school, when it was time for team work I always ended up either with a parasitic bum, doing all the work for him or alone. I once did a 4-people project all to myself, but it's not like I had anything else to do.
Well said!...I call them vultures as instead of creating their own happiness they fulfill their emptiness by scavenging happiness from others around them. But they can only take it if you let them.
And if you have the choice between having no friends, or being friends with someone who looks down on you and disrespects you, which would you choose?
I made this decision like ten years ago when i was in high school, i choosed to not hang out with the ones who look down on me, but now after all this time i must admit it was a mistake, because now i don't have friends at all, it would been better to cope with this people rather than not facing them cause now i've realized that there are so many out there and i can't manage to face them