Wow this resonates with me deeply. I have best friend- "so called", who says things like "come on it's me,you can tell me anything." or " i hope you would tell me this or that, or talk to me before so and so seen as i am your best friend." But she never calls- only texts. if i call her it's like, "what's wrong?" I didn't think i needed an excuse!
On the times I leave the ball in her court it has been known for maybe a few days to go by and i get a text saying, "you not been in touch with me- it really hurts me you are "supposedly" my best friend!" But as I point out, i have said you never contact me either. You know I am here for you. All she says is- you shouldn't need me to come to you! You know last week- blah blah blah..i was feeling down. But the truth is often i ask after her and for example, i did on Thursday night- text and email- NOTHING back. But I did hear back, when i stupidlt accidentally text her instead of someone else.All I got was- "Sounds like an interesting text- Not!" Then nothing since- what is her problem?! Some days I wanna pick up the phone and say that. But like right now I know she got struff going on, so i would be asked how dare i be like that when she is stressed. But point is when she is- I get ignored if i ask after her, and get in trouble if i don't get in touch! Why should I chase her? Sorry guys..can feel my blood boiling...