Do you hate your personality?
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MollyBeGood
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I like my personality, though I am often misunderstood. I always try to make people laugh if I can. I look for that same quality in friends and appreciate anyone who can make me smile.
caringsoul
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i've did thing in the past that i regret and for a punishment i do things that would hurt me which was the greatest torture i can give to myself. But it was a wrong route, and i wished i never did what i did, if i tell people, they may think its little and im over-reacting, but they wont understand.
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userremoved
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I love my personality. It's other people that dont like my personality. With the exception of friends of course.
mikebird
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I definitely love my own personality. Always have; always will.
I'm unique. I'm a comic.
It's where I've been ever since the very first day I stepped into an office, wearing a shirt & tie, when it was 1998, that it took a few weeks to start realising this... but it took me a real 10 years to finally know for sure that I do NOT belong in an office at all.
Not one person has ever accepted me as the person I am, with a freedom-of-speech attitude, and a real kick to my personality ever before that first office day. Now oppressed by officedom, life is lost. Put one foot wrong, and you're rejected.
I could come from a different angle about me, and what's changed, but your thread has got me thinking this way again, so thank you for that.
New thought... a football team. Does every single member HAVE TO think and do exactly the same, all the time? Can a member be yourself? In an office, it's about "fitting in" with 5 people, or 100 people, or... 1,000 people? eg. call centre? Hivemind.
One joke. One person laughs. Nobody laughs? 1,000 laugh? 200 laugh? That's it. Get rid of him! He doesn't fit in here!
That's my experience.
PLEASE! Someone tell me! I really try & try to repeat others' thread and follow that, in an office, smiling, whether it's the boss or someone else. Whatever I do - quiet, loud, thoughtful, sublime, subtle. Everything always leads to outright rejection.
I've been looking for the reason for this ever since 1998. I have not given up. This forum should have the ultimate answer for me. There is one thing I've been looking for and nobody has said this to my face in the office. It always ends in "Thank you for all your work, Mike.. we have to let you go. Sorry" Something like that.
I've had a bit of criticism on here. THAT is what I'm looking for. Where did I put a foot wrong?
A turbulent mind? I am emotional. I keep that in control in an office. Following instructions is not my strong point.
I'm unique. I'm a comic.
It's where I've been ever since the very first day I stepped into an office, wearing a shirt & tie, when it was 1998, that it took a few weeks to start realising this... but it took me a real 10 years to finally know for sure that I do NOT belong in an office at all.
Not one person has ever accepted me as the person I am, with a freedom-of-speech attitude, and a real kick to my personality ever before that first office day. Now oppressed by officedom, life is lost. Put one foot wrong, and you're rejected.
I could come from a different angle about me, and what's changed, but your thread has got me thinking this way again, so thank you for that.
New thought... a football team. Does every single member HAVE TO think and do exactly the same, all the time? Can a member be yourself? In an office, it's about "fitting in" with 5 people, or 100 people, or... 1,000 people? eg. call centre? Hivemind.
One joke. One person laughs. Nobody laughs? 1,000 laugh? 200 laugh? That's it. Get rid of him! He doesn't fit in here!
That's my experience.
PLEASE! Someone tell me! I really try & try to repeat others' thread and follow that, in an office, smiling, whether it's the boss or someone else. Whatever I do - quiet, loud, thoughtful, sublime, subtle. Everything always leads to outright rejection.
I've been looking for the reason for this ever since 1998. I have not given up. This forum should have the ultimate answer for me. There is one thing I've been looking for and nobody has said this to my face in the office. It always ends in "Thank you for all your work, Mike.. we have to let you go. Sorry" Something like that.
I've had a bit of criticism on here. THAT is what I'm looking for. Where did I put a foot wrong?
A turbulent mind? I am emotional. I keep that in control in an office. Following instructions is not my strong point.
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dyingtolive
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i like my personality i am INTP. and its a sort of rare one. i think im developing semi-ok as a good and well balanced INTP, not too nerdy but still reliable when it comes to doing what INTP's do.
On the other hand, it takes other people to bring out the best in you. Your personality is dependent on your environment. If you keep it boring, you get boring. So, im thankful for the people who keep me alive, even in this forum, yo. I am grateful for the ppl who keep me alive in here, even if its through a tube.
Come to think of it, without online socializing, i could very well be a much more BORING person than i am.
On the other hand, it takes other people to bring out the best in you. Your personality is dependent on your environment. If you keep it boring, you get boring. So, im thankful for the people who keep me alive, even in this forum, yo. I am grateful for the ppl who keep me alive in here, even if its through a tube.
Come to think of it, without online socializing, i could very well be a much more BORING person than i am.
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Deus_Ex_Lemur
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I love my personality when my personality loves me. When I really just let it take over and drop inhibitions is when I feel best. I mean kind of obvious no "duh lemur" statement...
But it's so up and down - so one cannot express their personality and love it unless they accept it... which includes the GOOD with the BAD... accepting the "bad" is the hard part of course... and I believe some facets of personality can be enhanced and sculpted.
I wish my personality came through in RL a lot better; I was freerer to express it. Not be so negative/about it there. But - one day it shall. I won't be inhibited to BE ME.
But it's so up and down - so one cannot express their personality and love it unless they accept it... which includes the GOOD with the BAD... accepting the "bad" is the hard part of course... and I believe some facets of personality can be enhanced and sculpted.
I wish my personality came through in RL a lot better; I was freerer to express it. Not be so negative/about it there. But - one day it shall. I won't be inhibited to BE ME.
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Beatrice
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I've always liked my "true" self (I guess you could call it). The inner me. I guess it helps that I was never bullied in school. That would have made me hate myself, I'm sure of it, because I'm very sensitive.
When I kind of "came out of my shell", to use that phrase I hate so much - I liked the parts of myself that were fun. I was bubbly, funny (or so I am told), I laughed a LOT. But still always soooooo anxious and uncomfortable, never completely at ease. So when I was unable to be assertive with people, their trespasses made me bitter. And then I got depressed. Got some help for that and was better for a while. Then went to college, got REALLY depressed, and it's all been mostly downhill from there.
I miss who I was then, but I can't get her back because she was very naive and innocent then.
Now I have to try to figure out who the "real" me is after some experience in this world, and underneath all the depression, anger, anxiety.
But yeah, I like me. For the most part I truly do.
When I kind of "came out of my shell", to use that phrase I hate so much
- I liked the parts of myself that were fun. I was bubbly, funny (or so I am told), I laughed a LOT. But still always soooooo anxious and uncomfortable, never completely at ease. So when I was unable to be assertive with people, their trespasses made me bitter. And then I got depressed. Got some help for that and was better for a while. Then went to college, got REALLY depressed, and it's all been mostly downhill from there.I miss who I was then, but I can't get her back because she was very naive and innocent then.
Now I have to try to figure out who the "real" me is after some experience in this world, and underneath all the depression, anger, anxiety.
But yeah, I like me. For the most part I truly do.
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Deus_Ex_Lemur
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^^^Ive been where you are the last 3 years... but I am trying to find my personality again, actually I have through this site, before that I never really went online forums at least where was so free and honest. Now that I graduate Im at a point of big change and it's time... I realize it'll still be a slow process that part is frustrating but... I ain't living like I have anymore somedays I will esp now - but it'll pass. I hope to for ebtter or for worse just BE - my personality love it or hate it, in RL - and be content with that.
dyingtolive
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i got into the personality type tests about last year and found it way cool. u can also learn things about urself, and feel less like a freak, atlest i felt more confident in myself as an INTP, and learning about my strengths, and how to work on and embrace my weaknesses.
Personality Test and Types (Jungian Psychological Typology)
Personality Test and Types (Jungian Psychological Typology)
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Deus_Ex_Lemur
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There is a thread about this/with a test...
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/whats-your-personality-type-17490/
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dyingtolive
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whoa awesome. the IN's Rule the list!
coyote
Well-known member
perhaps you expect more of the world than the world is able to offer
you might find peace if you learn to accept the world the way it is
CosmicNeurotica
Banned
I hate most all of myself
Deus_Ex_Lemur
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^^Well I like all of yourselves.
CosmicNeurotica
Banned
lol thanks lemur. You aint so bad yourself.
