MollyBeGood
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Most days I wish I was single and I am not. So I am the opposite. depressed because I am not single.
Depressed because you're single?
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Steamdriver
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Yeah I do feel depressed wen I think about being single like I am,but mainly because not only am I single,but lonely,and I think if I had a girl friend that would make me not feel so lonely,plus I think it is a nice idea to have a special person to share your time and interest with.
NightTimeForever
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Somtimes I do, but I realize I have only myself to blame. I've been approached before, by pretty attractive women too, but there's always a voice in my head saying I'm not worthy. Or, I'm just too anxious and thinking about other things to actually care. I'm a weird male, I know.
Quelqu'un
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Totally agree. And you're not weird, or maybe we're both weird. But who wants to be like everyone else? That's boring :
:I'm a 25 year old female and have never even been on a date, or kissed anyone. I too, have been asked out by some very good looking guys, and get hit on very often. I guess guys find me attractive. I see them looking at me all the time and hear I'm pretty often, but I don't really see it, but I pretend to be self-confident, so I guess I fool people (not saying all this to sound cocky, just to make a point that I'm pretty messed up mentally).
Most of the time when I think about being single, I feel really depressed. I would love to have someone with common interests to share my time with. I would also love some affection (verbal and physical). We're only human; we can't help but feel lonely sometimes. But then there are days when I think I'm better off being single because I'd probably be a mess in a relationship and they're not worth it anyway.
My other problem is, I'm great at pushing people away. I can have a huge crush on a guy, and all I wish for is for him to like me or ask me out, but when he does, I become terrified, start to feel disguisted by him, even if he's really handsome, and avoid him completely. It always ends the same. And I feel so nervous around guys. How can anyone ever like me for who I am if I can't really be myself? And I also start to think "why would anyone ever like or love me?" All I see is flaws in myself and I feel worthless sometimes.
Sometimes I feel like I'll never find anyone. I feel hopeless. Anyway, where do you meet a guy nowadays that's actually a good, sweet, honest person and is not a player or douchebag?
Mickery
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Why is that?
LazyHermitCrab
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nightcrawler
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Most of the time I love being single - being able to do what I want when I want, spend my money on what I want, eat what I want etc. But there are times you want to share some of life's experiences - even simple things like a walk in the park - with someone special, chatting & laughing together. What would be a totally forgettable, mundane event on your own could become a cherished memory if shared with someone you're in love with.
Saying that...I can't help feeling that If I did ever go out with someone again I'll just be thinking how much I'd like to be single again!
Saying that...I can't help feeling that If I did ever go out with someone again I'll just be thinking how much I'd like to be single again!
Danfalc
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I don't get depressed because I'm single. I do miss having someone to just enjoy life with, be affectionate with, make happy and make love too.
But at the same time I don't miss heated arguments, jealousy and manipulation that can sometimes come with a relationship. I wouldn't say I am happy being single, but I am content to wait until the right person comes along rather than rushing into anything.
In my experience rushing into relationship just because you don't want to be alone is a good way to end up hurting yourself and someone else in the long run.
But at the same time I don't miss heated arguments, jealousy and manipulation that can sometimes come with a relationship. I wouldn't say I am happy being single, but I am content to wait until the right person comes along rather than rushing into anything.
In my experience rushing into relationship just because you don't want to be alone is a good way to end up hurting yourself and someone else in the long run.
JesseJay
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This. ^ Plus I'd rather be single than have someone rip into me about my health like I could've helped it or it's simple to cure.
NightTimeForever
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Totally agree. And you're not weird, or maybe we're both weird. But who wants to be like everyone else? That's boring :
I'm a 25 year old female and have never even been on a date, or kissed anyone. I too, have been asked out by some very good looking guys, and get hit on very often. I guess guys find me attractive. I see them looking at me all the time and hear I'm pretty often, but I don't really see it, but I pretend to be self-confident, so I guess I fool people (not saying all this to sound cocky, just to make a point that I'm pretty messed up mentally).
Most of the time when I think about being single, I feel really depressed. I would love to have someone with common interests to share my time with. I would also love some affection (verbal and physical). We're only human; we can't help but feel lonely sometimes. But then there are days when I think I'm better off being single because I'd probably be a mess in a relationship and they're not worth it anyway.
My other problem is, I'm great at pushing people away. I can have a huge crush on a guy, and all I wish for is for him to like me or ask me out, but when he does, I become terrified, start to feel disguisted by him, even if he's really handsome, and avoid him completely. It always ends the same. And I feel so nervous around guys. How can anyone ever like me for who I am if I can't really be myself? And I also start to think "why would anyone ever like or love me?" All I see is flaws in myself and I feel worthless sometimes.
Sometimes I feel like I'll never find anyone. I feel hopeless. Anyway, where do you meet a guy nowadays that's actually a good, sweet, honest person and is not a player or douchebag?
Where to meet a decent human being nowadays? Good question, lol. Well, I suppose the better question is where to meet a decent human being that is accepting of my issues. How sad for me I see those as two distinct things.
single life is fun but being lonely is not. I am so happy that I have loving and caring friends now, but I think it would be even more better to start banging girls around. Yeah that might sound ambitious coming from a guy who is a 24 y.o. virgin but I'll give it a try. My goal is to bang as many beautiful girls as possible, and if I meet a right girl, then I don't mind having a relationship with her. Besides, I love sex and like physical aspects of being with a woman, like holding her hand, running my fingers down her hair, looking deeply into her eyes, kissing and making out and whatnot.
The problem seems to be I don't express my sexual intents and most girls try to become my friends. I mean I am not bad at talking to girls but the trouble I'm having is escalating it into a sexual thing. So I probably need to be more aggressive and show my sexual intentions early on so they don't put me into a friends zone...
The problem seems to be I don't express my sexual intents and most girls try to become my friends. I mean I am not bad at talking to girls but the trouble I'm having is escalating it into a sexual thing. So I probably need to be more aggressive and show my sexual intentions early on so they don't put me into a friends zone...
Nanita
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I like the idea of being with someone. Having company and doing things together, like cooking, travelling, sleeping, fixing things around the house or garden.
But so far it hasn´t worked for me .. Yes I have felt the greatness of living with a partner. But in the end, it gets complicated and I reach a point where I feel we are too different in too many ways, and then I enjoy my own company MORE!
But so far it hasn´t worked for me .. Yes I have felt the greatness of living with a partner. But in the end, it gets complicated and I reach a point where I feel we are too different in too many ways, and then I enjoy my own company MORE!
Danfalc
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Maybe not think of them as objects just to be "banged" I have nothing against casual sex at all...but I think talking about how you want to "bang" as many pretty girls as possible doesn't sound good. It makes you sound like you have no respect for women.Maybe you are not like that, and it was just a poor choice of words, so I apologise if that's the case.
There is a thin line between being assertive and being aggressive/pushy. I would be careful to not over do it. I honestly think your better off being yourself and waiting for the right time and girl, rather than trying to force it. In my experience a lot of good relationships have come out of friendships. So being "put in the friend zone" Isn't always a bad thing imo.
JesseJay
Member
Until it messes up and screws over the friendship.
Danfalc
Banned
Very true, a relationship can ruin a friendship if it all goes south. But sometimes it's worth taking that risk imo
Kat
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Not really, whilst I was single I didn’t care about being in a relationship, being liked makes things more complicated especially for a social phobic. But now that I have had a taste for it I would probably become depressed if I was single. Even though what we have is far from perfect and we’ve gone through some issues as to be expected and it does take time for a relationship to mature, but if you can withstand the bad for the good it’s great.
Ashonym
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I get depressed thinking about the one that got away... So in a sense, yes. I had found the only person on the planet exactly like me in every way but the opposite sex, whom I also found extremely attractive.
Same mindset, same social anxiety, same hobbies, likes, dislikes, food habits, EVERYTHING. I'm talking we both knew what the other was thinking in the room. NOTHING felt so....effortless, and serene, and unrestricted...
...But he is related to my ex, and the family will NOT have it. At all. And he was to be alienated if he went forth, so he stopped, and I stopped. What could have been a happy relationship of sorts...
I miss him every day but now he won't barely speak a sentence to me. He's withdrawing to protect himself, I guess. But yes, I think about it and I miss the connection and then, yes, being single is QUITE depressing... T.T
Same mindset, same social anxiety, same hobbies, likes, dislikes, food habits, EVERYTHING. I'm talking we both knew what the other was thinking in the room. NOTHING felt so....effortless, and serene, and unrestricted...
...But he is related to my ex, and the family will NOT have it. At all. And he was to be alienated if he went forth, so he stopped, and I stopped. What could have been a happy relationship of sorts...
I miss him every day but now he won't barely speak a sentence to me. He's withdrawing to protect himself, I guess. But yes, I think about it and I miss the connection and then, yes, being single is QUITE depressing... T.T