UnbreakableShell

I don't think it's social phobia, I think it's my self-esteem and self-confidence problems.

I noticed:

1. I am afraid to take responsibility.
2. I didn't care too much about my G-2 license testing.
3. I can't talk to women
4. I can't really talk to my friends when theres women around.
5. Concerning #4 : It's even worst when there are sexy women around.
6. I take minimal work roles at work (even though it's a minimum wage job).
7. I don't even know if my few friends, "are real friends".
8. I sit by myself in the cafeteria lunch room.
9. I go crazy when I have to say something in class. (reading/especially presenting).
10. I don't know what kind of clothes to wear, or where to buy clothes.
11. I honestly think my grades would be a lot higher if I had friends in high school.
12. I can say hi to people, but can't make new friends.
13. I am afraid to go to college.
14. I just can't see myself succeeding, I want to become an electrician, but WTF, I don't even have the confidence to get my G-2 or make new friends, talk to women@?@???!?!?!
15. I am 1 year behind in High School.
16. I don't want to switch schools, I'd rather be a loser in one school than two or three schools....that means MORE people will know I am a loser loner with no friends.

One major problem is that I am the eldest person in the family. My sister is going into grade 9, and I am damn suppose to take care of her and make sure she doesn't get pushed around. NOW WHAT THE ****!?!?! How the **** I am gonna do that if I can't even take care of myself ?!?!

Now my younger brother and sister will soon find out I am a loser.

Hurricane

it's Social Phobia...

UnbreakableShell

What I always thought was increasing your self-esteem and self-confidence and you will be less shy, and less anxious = you will not be completly lonely and have at least some friends.

But the main problem is where the **** is a good level of self-esteem and self-confidence going to come from...? It can't just come out of nowhere.

aoao

http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/postt2713.html

a place you can start is the link above. if that doesn't help you can go to a psychologist or psychiatrist. :?

self-esteem and self-confidence comes with optimism. don't have self talk in which you make yourself feel inferior or unworthy. do whatever pleases you. don't just do nothing, too. many people that come here just stare at their walls all day and think about how much they suck. how is that supposed to cure social anxiety? i'm very interested in art, music, fashion, etc. it cheers me up to do something creative. probably pretty common sense type stuff there, have hobbies and stuff. um.. maybe drinking or smoking lets you lighten up? do whatever is necessary, but don't get carried away with drugs and booze. etc.

jenz

all of what u listed sounds like abnormal behavior around common normal everyday situations...it hard to realize it but social phobia/avpd/social anxiety/anxiety is abnormal ...not that ur insane but that it means that it permeates all areas of you life..it shouldn't be happening all the time and to that extent.

4myself

That does sound like social phobia, but if you're not sure then you can get a professional opinion, then you can at least be certain.

Thanks for the advice aoao, I needed reminding about finding and maintaining hobbies and interests, sometimes I get a bit lazy.

UnbreakableShell

Well, I'm going to see a psychoLOGIST soon. I'll just tell him all my problems, see what he says, and pay that 100+ bucks, lol.

brokensoul

lol
i'm proud of you for getting your G-2 =D
(i'm 18 and don't even have my G-1 yet)

UnbreakableShell

I don't have my G-2 Yet, I'm scared of going for it, yet alone practicing for it.

I even went through driving school (paid for it to).... **** it was horrible. I would start getting nervous and all when the instructor did attendance, about 50 people in the classroom. Had rapid thoughts like "Oh my god I have to say my name.... oh my god what if I have to read....oh crap what if I have to use the washroom....oh **** he is randomly calling people to read, oh.... this and all that".

Fighter86

I'm quite sure its social phobia as well. I did went through & is still going through some of the things that u have described. For most of them, I can't help or offer u any suggestions since I'm in the same boat as well. But as for the part about not knowing what to wear or where to shop for clothes(no. 10 on your list), I could suggest something. Maybe u could see how your peers dress & try to imitate them? I don't exactly know how u dress in Canada, but I think its ok to wear just a shirt & jeans to school? I don't know but maybe u can buy clothes at some place like KMart? or large shopping centres? Of course if u r nervous, maybe u could go when its less crowded...hope u find this useful...



My mom & relatives have been asking me to go to driving school as well. But I had heard that its going to be held in a HUGE class- meaning lots of people, so I don't think I want to take the lessons after all. Besides, its very expensive to own cars in Singapore so I don't think it would be a neccessary skill since I most probably couldn't afford a car...