if you have a question about socialphobia i will be glad to try answer your question
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genius
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no joining the military will not cure it my advice for you dont try to force your self to face your fears that way because it will not work this way will just make you suffer much more because military is all about orders you cants tell them i cant do this because i have social phobia
you have social phobia because you have alot of negative thoughts running inside your mind
the only way will help you to end this suffer is by changing this negative thoughts with positive thoughts
you are not coward but because of the negative thoughts you have your brain see any social situation as a threatening situation then your body start pumping a huge amounts of adrenaline
do your self a favor and stop thinking about military
your cure is called "CBT" cognitive behavior therapy
genius
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the real thing that any one have social phobia afraid of is what people think and say about this persion
the difference between the social person and the social phobic person is that social people dont really care what others think and say about them you can see them doing very stupid and embarrassing things and dont really care
people have social phobia care about what others say and think about them because they have this negative thoughts that keep running inside their mind saying that they will do something very stupid and embarrassing and they dont know how to stop this negative thoughts
genius
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Is SP embedded into genes or no ? Or is it caused ONLY by past experiences ?
Im not talking if an introverted, shy personality is in the DNA, cause that can be.
Anyway, I want scientific proof for your answer ::
no social phobia is not a part of the human but its something you develope with time because of you behaviors values and beliefs
for example :
-you care soo much about what people say and think about you
-you beat your self up for any mistake you make no matter how small it was or when it happen even if it happensd when you was child
-you compare your self with others
-you try very hard to make others like you
-you try to be the best
-you try to be perfect
-when you are sad or have a negative thought you just sit and do nothing
and much much more
so the best way to fix your behavior and beliefs system is startting "CBT" therapy
dreamqueen
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well........is incoherence part of social phobia?? i cant seem to relate or find what people are meaning or can i find ppl i relate with and if i do i dnt have any feeling for it like i know ppl like friends who relate and makes eachother "tick" and this is fulfilling for them and what "friendships" are about but i always fail to feel part cuz my lack of seeing where the other person is comin from
so??? idk what u think
so??? idk what u think
Dronee
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Are you certain? Because I am thinking of trying out for one of the elite military units eventually. To prove to others that I can do it too. Won't the tough discipline thing help at all?
You're right there about the adrenaline thing for sure... I've gotten over the anxiety in purely social situations, but at work, I always feel like I'm being judged over the smallest of things. What do you think about that?
Eilonwy
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I would just like to say that I personally think genes do affect your chances of SA. not only have I definitely read it before, I'm living it. You could say that past experiences aside, I pretty much inherited the genes for SA from my dad: he exhibits the exact same symptoms that I have, and my brother sometimes does too, my brother's is just not as extreme. Also, I've talked to someone whose two other brothers and sisters also had SA: so all three of them did. So I would definitely have to say that SA is part genetic; not always, and it might also have to do with personality traits that influence it, but theres no doubt that it does.
Pretty much my thoughts, of course armchair psychiatry could also be an issue here
genius
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because any one have social phobia treats people like "gods", any one have social phobia make the rest of people his reference he take their openion like the truth
and this is a big mistake every person live on his own world every person see the world in different way every one evaluate others depending on his own experience in life, people personality is like finger print you will never find two persons have the same personality
no one can make every one like him its no big deal any way, you are equal to any one else when you make people like gods my make your self a slave so when you do this you just insult your self
what you need to do is to take a fixed point to evaluate your self for me i take god as my fixed point god never change the god mood and personality never change just care about what your fixed point think and say about you and forget about others
respect your rights and duties and respect others rights and duties
genius
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sure is a part of incoherence when you overcome social phobia you will find your self acting exactilly like others but for now because your beain have alot of negative thoughts that disturbs you from seeing the truth about others and the huge amount of adrebaline that your body pumps its hard to feel in peacein social situations
thats why you feel incoherence
ask your doctor for a medicine to reduce adrenaline if you feel scared in social situations and start CBT therapy and you will see the difference
genius
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yes i am very sure i am not a doctor any way so ask many "CBT" doctors before taking this decission
well others will be out there having fun and they will not give you a second to think how are you doing except sure for your family
who cares what others think if you want to fix that try "CBT"
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genius
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it's very good it will answer your questions, you will see that your behavior is exactilly the same for any one have social phobia
the most important thing it will teach you the right way to overcome social anxiety
genius
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i am not a doctor but during 13 from my life suffring from SA i lost my college and my job and i didnt know what is worng with me until i start to know about cbt and it really answerd all my questions
i am just trying to help others and save them time thats all
genius
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you can learn social phobia from others and before you belive that its a gene that cause SA you have to ask CBT doctors first
dont just read some one else post and belive it not mine not others
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