genius

if you have a question about socialphobia i will be glad to try answer your question

Dronee

Can you just tough it out and eventually get better? Force of will? In these kinds of cases, many people will assume that the person with anxiety is just lazy and cowardly. Some will say that everyone feels anxious, but they just faced their fears.

Will joining the military cure it?

Falkor

What is the real thing that social phobic's are afraid of?

When someone ask me ''What are you afraid of?'' I always say, I don't know the real reason.
But I know I'm afraid of judgement. But that's weird to say.
I want to give a better explanation.

when you stay away from certain things, your brain confirms that its something to fear, so face your fears, so your subconcious mind gets used to it

genius

no joining the military will not cure it my advice for you dont try to force your self to face your fears that way because it will not work this way will just make you suffer much more because military is all about orders you cants tell them i cant do this because i have social phobia

you have social phobia because you have alot of negative thoughts running inside your mind

the only way will help you to end this suffer is by changing this negative thoughts with positive thoughts

you are not coward but because of the negative thoughts you have your brain see any social situation as a threatening situation then your body start pumping a huge amounts of adrenaline

do your self a favor and stop thinking about military

your cure is called "CBT" cognitive behavior therapy

genius

the real thing that any one have social phobia afraid of is what people think and say about this persion

the difference between the social person and the social phobic person is that social people dont really care what others think and say about them you can see them doing very stupid and embarrassing things and dont really care

people have social phobia care about what others say and think about them because they have this negative thoughts that keep running inside their mind saying that they will do something very stupid and embarrassing and they dont know how to stop this negative thoughts

genius

no social phobia is not a part of the human but its something you develope with time because of you behaviors values and beliefs

for example :
-you care soo much about what people say and think about you
-you beat your self up for any mistake you make no matter how small it was or when it happen even if it happensd when you was child
-you compare your self with others
-you try very hard to make others like you
-you try to be the best
-you try to be perfect
-when you are sad or have a negative thought you just sit and do nothing

and much much more

so the best way to fix your behavior and beliefs system is startting "CBT" therapy

dreamqueen

well........is incoherence part of social phobia?? i cant seem to relate or find what people are meaning or can i find ppl i relate with and if i do i dnt have any feeling for it like i know ppl like friends who relate and makes eachother "tick" and this is fulfilling for them and what "friendships" are about but i always fail to feel part cuz my lack of seeing where the other person is comin from

so??? idk what u think

you are what you think

Dronee

Are you certain? Because I am thinking of trying out for one of the elite military units eventually. To prove to others that I can do it too. Won't the tough discipline thing help at all?

You're right there about the adrenaline thing for sure... I've gotten over the anxiety in purely social situations, but at work, I always feel like I'm being judged over the smallest of things. What do you think about that?

Zlajo

What do you think about dr Richard's "Overcoming Social Anxiety Step By Step" audio tapes? Is that any good?

DanFC

Why are you in any way a credible source to seek answers and not opinions from?