Originally Posted by Beyondshy
How did you stop that from affecting you getting another job, princess_haru?
I think I went from being shy to having social phobia because I had to do work experience in a health food store when I was 15. I, like you, was thrown in at the deep end and expected to cope. The people I worked with weren't very nice and would blame things on me if they did something wrong. At the end of the week the boss had to fill out my report. She was asked about different aspects of the job and how I performed with the options being excellent, good, satisfactory or poor. I was given satisfactory for most. Everyone I spoke to at school was given excellent or good. Even though I KNOW I did a good job and should have just ignored her (especially as she said my numeracy skills were only satisfactory when in fact I was the best in my school at the time!) it really affected me badly and I think it's the main reason why I am absolutely terrified to get a job now. I don't know what to do about it now though. How can I get over it?
Well I basically had no choice about getting another job, as I needed the money badly. I've found that, as long as the job isn't unbearable (shop work's not for me!), having to go out and interact with people every day at work helps me improve my social skills and builds up my stamina for being around other people. It's hard at first but it gets easier with time and practice. I suppose it's what psychologists call exposure therapy. I know some people say it doesn't work for them, but for me it seems to help.
The main problem I have is taking the first step, as it feels like walking out on a high ledge and trying not to look down as I step out into thin air, willing myself not to fall!!
But now that I've fallen a few times I know it's not the end of the world and I won't break any bones if I do. Climbing back up to try again is tiring and difficult, but I've done that a few times too now and I believe that if I
can do it (scared, grumpy creature that I am!) then anyone can