1BlackSheep
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^^ That's awesome, MarionBerry! Hope things continue to go well for you. He sounds like a great match! Now where do I find one like him? :
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love and dating, please inspire me
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coyote
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i met my first wife in high school. we were assigned as debate partners. we also had several classes and activities together. we never dated, just friends. she was going out with a friend of mine who i had known since kindergarten. after graduation, we kept in touch. we dated other people for years - i was overseas, she was in college. i saw her a few times when i went home on leave from the military. we began writing more frequently, and eventually a relationship blossomed. we were married for 12 years.
about the time that fell apart, i met a woman in an internet forum (much like this one). we began corresponding and talking on the phone. she lived on the other side of the country. one thing led to another, we met up, i got divorced, she moved to my city, and we eventually got married. we were together for seven years.
after she left me, i moved to another state - someplace i'd always loved to visit - looking for the geographic cure. my therapist suggested i might meet a woman he thought i'd like if i went to certain music venue and looked for a woman he vaguely described. i did, i saw her, but was to scared to approach her. i got her number from a friend of hers that i struck up a conversation with. i worked up the nerve to call and ask her out the next day. we've been dating for 5 and 1/2 years... not sure where it's heading, but that's ok - just taking it as it goes.
i'm not sure if that was very inspiring or not, but i hope it illustrates that the whole "relationship" thing isn't a simple one-shot deal. fairy tales romances and "happily ever after" are for children. grown ups have more complicated lives. just keep trying, learn from your mistakes, and hopefully you'll learn enough to forge a relationship that is satisfying.
about the time that fell apart, i met a woman in an internet forum (much like this one). we began corresponding and talking on the phone. she lived on the other side of the country. one thing led to another, we met up, i got divorced, she moved to my city, and we eventually got married. we were together for seven years.
after she left me, i moved to another state - someplace i'd always loved to visit - looking for the geographic cure. my therapist suggested i might meet a woman he thought i'd like if i went to certain music venue and looked for a woman he vaguely described. i did, i saw her, but was to scared to approach her. i got her number from a friend of hers that i struck up a conversation with. i worked up the nerve to call and ask her out the next day. we've been dating for 5 and 1/2 years... not sure where it's heading, but that's ok - just taking it as it goes.
i'm not sure if that was very inspiring or not, but i hope it illustrates that the whole "relationship" thing isn't a simple one-shot deal. fairy tales romances and "happily ever after" are for children. grown ups have more complicated lives. just keep trying, learn from your mistakes, and hopefully you'll learn enough to forge a relationship that is satisfying.
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hoddesdon
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This is an outrage - the original series with Captain Kirk is clearly the best.
neohorizon
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In the past 2 years of college, i was a loner, shy and with 0 self esteem... I didnt work, neither studied. I was feeling so bad, my life was frozen! Than, a new girl came to the college, she is from the same city than i am. We only spoke after a few days after the begging of the classes, she was with her boyfriend and there was other guy with us (a friend)... When i talked to her, i noticed she was special, she is beautiful and so nice, i loved her laugh and her sense of humor. She called me a "weirdo" (kidding) and said that she didnt understand me, why i was so shy and loner. I didnt care, i just loved to talk to her, so after some other talks, i asked for her MSN, she gave!
I began to open my self with her, as i never did in my life, she was so nice, she gave me tips and encouraged me to look for help! But... she started to talk with me about the parties that she was going, about the boys she was kissing... that made feel sooooo bad, she was that beautiful girl and i was a nerd weird guy! i started to avoid seen her in public, i didnt want that her friends see me with her!
Than i got MAD!!!! I thought "i MUST CHANGE!!!"! I started going to church (some times with her), she encouraged me to confess my sins, to look for professional help and to OPEN MYSELF with my parents! I did it, now i'm much better and got a job, my parents and the psychologist helped me a lot!!!
I still loving her, but i cant say anything to her about it!
Yesterday (October 19) was her birthday, i wrote an email thanking everything she done for me, i said she was a bucket of frozen water that waked me up to LIFE, i said that she changed my life for ever and that i hope she can find someone that do the same thing to her! She answered saying that i'm very special to her and she really like me (as friend), i never felt so good in my entire life... I hope i can say that i LOVE her someday...
-- I still feeling bad when i see her with other guys, its horrible! but this is LOVE, sometimes is awful and sometimes is awesome!
I think its worth it, it can change our lives...
*srry my english*
I began to open my self with her, as i never did in my life, she was so nice, she gave me tips and encouraged me to look for help! But... she started to talk with me about the parties that she was going, about the boys she was kissing... that made feel sooooo bad, she was that beautiful girl and i was a nerd weird guy! i started to avoid seen her in public, i didnt want that her friends see me with her!
Than i got MAD!!!! I thought "i MUST CHANGE!!!"! I started going to church (some times with her), she encouraged me to confess my sins, to look for professional help and to OPEN MYSELF with my parents! I did it, now i'm much better and got a job, my parents and the psychologist helped me a lot!!!
I still loving her, but i cant say anything to her about it!
Yesterday (October 19) was her birthday, i wrote an email thanking everything she done for me, i said she was a bucket of frozen water that waked me up to LIFE, i said that she changed my life for ever and that i hope she can find someone that do the same thing to her! She answered saying that i'm very special to her and she really like me (as friend), i never felt so good in my entire life... I hope i can say that i LOVE her someday...
-- I still feeling bad when i see her with other guys, its horrible! but this is LOVE, sometimes is awful and sometimes is awesome!
I think its worth it, it can change our lives...
*srry my english*
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Richey
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for me, in my early twenties, i asked girls that i talked to a lot already out on dates, neither of those lasted past the second date because they had other interests for potential boyfriends they really wanted to go out with, which was just a shame.
a girl at work asked me out once and we dated for a few weeks and it was magical, we just had alot of fun, but that ended up with her going out with one of my friends behind my back, which was a bit of a surprise.
i haven't dated since then, which was six years ago now i think...
all of my best memories are from the early to mid 2000s.
i wish it could be like that again, i was just younger with less pressure on me and felt a little more confident.
now everything just feels sort of hopeless in comparison, you work full time and you come home feeling stressed out and tired, the weekend arrives and it flies by, then its another week of putting up with a dull existance and crap that is dished out at work.
things just aren't going well these days, also i'm just tired of things in culture like modern music, tv, i feel like i'm over it now or that its all past its best as well. there is nobody else i know that is nerdy and into music/movies, nobody i know has a nice placid personality, everyone has ego and is really intense.
a girl at work asked me out once and we dated for a few weeks and it was magical, we just had alot of fun, but that ended up with her going out with one of my friends behind my back, which was a bit of a surprise.
i haven't dated since then, which was six years ago now i think...
all of my best memories are from the early to mid 2000s.
i wish it could be like that again, i was just younger with less pressure on me and felt a little more confident.
now everything just feels sort of hopeless in comparison, you work full time and you come home feeling stressed out and tired, the weekend arrives and it flies by, then its another week of putting up with a dull existance and crap that is dished out at work.
things just aren't going well these days, also i'm just tired of things in culture like modern music, tv, i feel like i'm over it now or that its all past its best as well. there is nobody else i know that is nerdy and into music/movies, nobody i know has a nice placid personality, everyone has ego and is really intense.
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miserablecow
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I feel the same way, that I'm not good enough for anybody to date etc. I've been on very few dates (wich I can count with one hand), with guys, but nothing came out of them. So, technically I've never had a boyfirend.
My situation has been very different, as my culture amd religion doesn't allow interacting with the opposite sex. This influenced me not to pay attention or become interested in dating etc, but now as I'm older (mid 20's), I want to break out and try, but with having SA etc it has been hard.
My situation has been very different, as my culture amd religion doesn't allow interacting with the opposite sex. This influenced me not to pay attention or become interested in dating etc, but now as I'm older (mid 20's), I want to break out and try, but with having SA etc it has been hard.
truffleshuffle
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MikeyC
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I'm also in my mid-20's and relatively dateless but we're still young so there's plenty of time. I hope you can overcome your SA and meet some nice guys.
I had a crush on this guy in high school for about 2 years, but I never ever had a conversation with him. I don't even know him personally. After high school, I found his facebook page, saw his IM username and chatted with him via IM. He seemed very annoyed and aloof with me. Finally, I confessed to him my crush for him but he rejected me, saying that he should nip it in the bud before more feelings get hurt. After the summer ended, I went off to college but couldn't forget about him and the hurt. I still had very vivid daydreams AND dreams about him, and they seem so real. I even heard actual voices beside me and I thought I must be going crazy. For the next 1.5 years in college, I kept visiting his fb page or blog and kept imagining that he was there beside me, all along, looking at me. I kept imagining romantic scenarios with him.
Afterwards, I transferred to another college and I finally realized how unhealthy and obsessed I was over something that was already over and was never real. Slowly, I started to let reality set in and finally, I got over my crush for this guy. As a more mature, wiser person (compared to my 18 years old self), I realized how silly and ridiculous I acted several years ago. What I had for that guy was just a mere crush, just an infatuation, nothing more nothing less. Same deal with the other guys in my past. I was shallow because I only liked this guy for his intelligence, and his money (because I heard he lived in a rich neighborhood, so he must be rich). I was a fool for being a materialistic gold-digger.
I don't want to end up like my mom, who married my dad probably only for his money and the stability that he was able to provide. My parents' marriage didn't really work out in the long run, the love is lost but they still manage to get along. Well, that was the past, and now, I know better.
Afterwards, I transferred to another college and I finally realized how unhealthy and obsessed I was over something that was already over and was never real. Slowly, I started to let reality set in and finally, I got over my crush for this guy. As a more mature, wiser person (compared to my 18 years old self), I realized how silly and ridiculous I acted several years ago. What I had for that guy was just a mere crush, just an infatuation, nothing more nothing less. Same deal with the other guys in my past. I was shallow because I only liked this guy for his intelligence, and his money (because I heard he lived in a rich neighborhood, so he must be rich). I was a fool for being a materialistic gold-digger.
I don't want to end up like my mom, who married my dad probably only for his money and the stability that he was able to provide. My parents' marriage didn't really work out in the long run, the love is lost but they still manage to get along. Well, that was the past, and now, I know better.
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Niceguy23
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Ive met 3 girls that that I could actually have no problem talking too and it was the best feeling ever to just connect with them and not be shy and nervous and just be happy and express myself and talk about anything but with all those 3 girls when it started to get serious I backed out because when it was time to meet the family, go on double dates, and hang out in public places with alot of people I just couldnt picture myself in the long run continuing to be able to do those things as I was forcing myself to do it. I met another girl on OKcupid site and she was just like me shy, liked to be alone, and was a home body I was acutally excited and thought I could be in a relationship with her and saw a future but she did the same thing I had did to those girls and slowy pushed me away lil by little. That was 2 years ago since then I have almost gave up Ive tried that site again but Noone i speak with interests me.