chibiXphantom
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I'm being faced with an extremely difficult decision...
I'm in an ... ambiguous relationship going on two years. I love him a lot. I moved with him to another state when he got a job there. Now he wants to leave the country for a job. In order for me to go with him, we'd have to get married. And not some nice romantic wedding and marriage. Just a legal one. We'd still be just "friends", but ones that happen to be married so we can live together (Risk jail and deportation if we lived together and weren't married) Every girl's dream, right? *sigh*
I kind of want to go with him. It would be fun to go to another country, though terrifying, as I've never done that before. Major culture shock, I'm sure. Financially a good choice. Though the process of moving to a new country is overwhelming to me, topped with the whole marriage thing ... The city is beautiful and fun looking, but has a climate that would make me never want to leave the air-conditioning. I get sick in the heat very easily, and get skin problems with high temperatures and hot sun. I find sub-zero temperatures more tolerable than hot and humid weather. Cities scare me. I'm used to tiny towns and living in the woods. I'd be going from a town of under 400 people to a major city... My family would definitely not approve of me going. Sure, travelling could be fun, but following him around the world, never staying in any place long enough to really make any ties anywhere ... I'm not sure I want that.
Staying behind is a depressing thought. He's my best friend, and after living with him and being around him so much, it'll be so hard to see him go... We'd be back to Skype messages and poor-quality video chats. I'd be back to living with my old roommate, who I dislike, unless I move. I'd probably go back to college, try to make friends, work towards a career in something. Though sounds boring, especially knowing my best friend is travelling the world and adventuring.
so it's either:
adventure, ambiguous relationship, companionship, some chaos
or
education, career, self-reliance, some stability
idk what to do
I'm in an ... ambiguous relationship going on two years. I love him a lot. I moved with him to another state when he got a job there. Now he wants to leave the country for a job. In order for me to go with him, we'd have to get married. And not some nice romantic wedding and marriage. Just a legal one. We'd still be just "friends", but ones that happen to be married so we can live together (Risk jail and deportation if we lived together and weren't married) Every girl's dream, right? *sigh*
I kind of want to go with him. It would be fun to go to another country, though terrifying, as I've never done that before. Major culture shock, I'm sure. Financially a good choice. Though the process of moving to a new country is overwhelming to me, topped with the whole marriage thing ... The city is beautiful and fun looking, but has a climate that would make me never want to leave the air-conditioning. I get sick in the heat very easily, and get skin problems with high temperatures and hot sun. I find sub-zero temperatures more tolerable than hot and humid weather. Cities scare me. I'm used to tiny towns and living in the woods. I'd be going from a town of under 400 people to a major city... My family would definitely not approve of me going. Sure, travelling could be fun, but following him around the world, never staying in any place long enough to really make any ties anywhere ... I'm not sure I want that.
Staying behind is a depressing thought. He's my best friend, and after living with him and being around him so much, it'll be so hard to see him go... We'd be back to Skype messages and poor-quality video chats. I'd be back to living with my old roommate, who I dislike, unless I move. I'd probably go back to college, try to make friends, work towards a career in something. Though sounds boring, especially knowing my best friend is travelling the world and adventuring.
so it's either:
adventure, ambiguous relationship, companionship, some chaos
or
education, career, self-reliance, some stability
idk what to do