Afraid to open a new thread !!

[ikbenrifi]

well, the title says it all,
it's been a while that i come to SPW but couldn't open a new thread except that i did now

Actually i've been participating in here about less than a year ago, but i found that my SA is getting worse. i didn't really have friends in here maybe because of i'm not initiative enough , so i stopped visiting the website.

Now that my SA hasn't improved in anyway, i feel i need to comeback to the forums maybe to make new friends and talk about social anxeity..
I don't know what else to say, i think that's it for now, i'll be back with new thread soon.

Thanks

 

[Srijita52]

Hey, welcome back. Sorry to know your SA hasn't improved. Hope we can help you here even a little. Feel free to talk to me or anyone here if you want. Looking forward to read more threads from you

 

[davidburke]

hey welcome back! i know exactly what you mean i feel so intimated to start a thread i'm constantly starting one and not posting. about making friends on here i think the best way to start off is reply to peoples threads if you can help and i find it is very much appreciated. you will gradually gets friends on here they really are a great bunch but like anything else it takes time . hope that helps

 

[KnuffleBunny]

Hello there Rifi! I notice your username is Dutch, are you from the Netherlands/Belgium?

 

[SilverSky]

Welcome back! You always have people to talk to here

 

[ikbenrifi]

Hey, welcome back. Sorry to know your SA hasn't improved. Hope we can help you here even a little. Feel free to talk to me or anyone here if you want. Looking forward to read more threads from you

Comments like yours always helps

thank you so much for being open to me

 

[ikbenrifi]

hey welcome back! i know exactly what you mean i feel so intimated to start a thread i'm constantly starting one and not posting. about making friends on here i think the best way to start off is reply to peoples threads if you can help and i find it is very much appreciated. you will gradually gets friends on here they really are a great bunch but like anything else it takes time . hope that helps

I will definitely reply to others thread even if i'm so hesitant doing so

thanks for your reply

 

[ikbenrifi]

Hello there Rifi! I notice your username is Dutch, are you from the Netherlands/Belgium?

hello

No i'm not neither from Netherlands or Belgium, just a dutch lover
i love the way Dutch sounds .
by the way, my name is not Rifi, maybe that's what's my username reflects, Rifi means simply the region i came from which is '' Rif '' northerm Morocco
what about you? are you from the Netherlands ?

 

[sullyS25]

I have a similar fear. I have posted some threads on here though...I am almost discouraged to post though maybe not afraid. Maybe both.

My experience has been that when I post something where I am venting and talking about my issues at the moment, I don't get many responses, if any. When I post a question asking what others are doing or what is going on with them, there are more responses....this makes sense to me but it discourages me from posting when I am really having issues and makes me wonder why my previous posts got no responses. Usually I assume that it is something inherently wrong with me or the way I wrote things that causes it.

I have also noticed that I have started to feel like I do when I am with a huge group of people in real life. I can easily point out the "cliques", who is popular and who is not....I have noticed that when certain people post, they seem to get more responses. I don't know if this makes sense but my mind has found a way to convince itself that I am separate from people that suffer from the same things I do...I even convince myself that people do not respond to things I write because they think I come across as Holier-than-thou or they didn't like something I wrote earlier so they have a resentment against me.

 

[ikbenrifi]

I have a similar fear. I have posted some threads on here though...I am almost discouraged to post though maybe not afraid. Maybe both.

My experience has been that when I post something where I am venting and talking about my issues at the moment, I don't get many responses, if any. When I post a question asking what others are doing or what is going on with them, there are more responses....this makes sense to me but it discourages me from posting when I am really having issues and makes me wonder why my previous posts got no responses. Usually I assume that it is something wrong with me or the way I wrote things that causes it.

I have also noticed that I have started to feel like I do when I am with a huge group of people in real life. I can easily point out the "cliques", who is popular and who is not....I have noticed that when certain people post, they seem to get more responses. I don't know if this makes sense but my mind has found a way to convince itself that I am separate from people that suffer from the same things I do...I even convince myself that people do not respond to things I write because they think I come across as Holier-than-thou or they didn't like something I wrote earlier so they have a resentment against me.

You have just expressed the way i feel; i tend to think that something is inherently wrong with me too, sometimes i check other threads and count how much Views/comments ratio they got to compare it to mine.
i believe this is just irrational, and it's due to the my low self-esteem.

anyway, thank you for your reply

 

[sullyS25]

It is irrational and I know this as well but sometimes I convince myself it is not and I am an outsider......And anytime, thank you for posting the thread.

 

[ikbenrifi]

It is irrational and I know this as well but sometimes I convince myself it is not and I am an outsider......And anytime, thank you for posting the thread.

Your welcome my friend !

 

[KiaKaha]

I have a similar fear. I have posted some threads on here though...I am almost discouraged to post though maybe not afraid. Maybe both.

My experience has been that when I post something where I am venting and talking about my issues at the moment, I don't get many responses, if any. When I post a question asking what others are doing or what is going on with them, there are more responses....this makes sense to me but it discourages me from posting when I am really having issues and makes me wonder why my previous posts got no responses. Usually I assume that it is something inherently wrong with me or the way I wrote things that causes it.

I have also noticed that I have started to feel like I do when I am with a huge group of people in real life. I can easily point out the "cliques", who is popular and who is not....I have noticed that when certain people post, they seem to get more responses. I don't know if this makes sense but my mind has found a way to convince itself that I am separate from people that suffer from the same things I do...I even convince myself that people do not respond to things I write because they think I come across as Holier-than-thou or they didn't like something I wrote earlier so they have a resentment against me.

I dont mean to quote your whole post but you pretty much summed up a lot of how I feel as well. I couldnt have said it anywhere near as articulate as you have. I kind of wish I had got here first

 

[sullyS25]

I dont mean to quote your whole post but you pretty much summed up a lot of how I feel as well. I couldnt have said it anywhere near as articulate as you have. I kind of wish I had got here first

Well it is good to hear I don't feel alone in this...maybe i am not so different from everyone else on here... no matter how much i try and convince myself that I am....haha