HEY, YOU GO GIRL!!
Woo, being bridesmaids, it's exciting, no?
Yeah, it is an honor... (wouldn't recommend strippers tho, unless she agrees - or specifically asks for them lol??
depends what kind of person she is?? or if coyote volunteers?? haha - I know a friend who would be delighted, and some who'd run away from such a party lol)
Well, when I was asked to be a bridesmaid by a friend I was super-nervous at the time too... I'm still glad I did it (though it was nervewrecking haha, I will kid you not, I was more nervous than the bride I think haha..)
It all went well/okay-ish, and well, I understand why they call that show bridezilla now
I totally don't understand demands by some people but huh, if it means a lot to her, and you.. I mean, if she means a lot to you as a friend...?
(Just don't bend too far so you might regret it later and maybe even break off friendship for it? Discussions are usually doable and if she's a friend she'll understand some things too..) Think of it as an adventure maybe?
Think about it, have you ever wondered what it would be like, when you watched the movies etc? Chance to experience it!
(Even if it went not-so-great, at least you'd have memories and know what it's like!)
And have you ever wanted to explore a city by yourself? Maybe it could be fun? interesting, amazing?
You could research and check it all online first, there are probably city guides too...? Maybe you even have friends or relatives in that city (or could explore couchsurfing/hospitalityclub or such communities?) Maybe someone from spw lives there or has been there?
(Lonely Planet has sections on which areas are safe in their guidebooks too, and some other guidebooks too I think?) There are some general guidelines online too? If there is a bunch of you together, it's probably pretty safe, especially if at least some of you agree to stay sober or sober-ish? (It's easier if you don't have friends who drink too much?)
If something feels really over the top, it'd still be probably good to try to get your mind across, maybe a compromise or win win situation can be reached? (I said no to golden sandals, I mean wtf?)
(If you're comfortable in heels or small heels by all means go for it, if not, something lower can be good, though I felt a bit 'under-dressed' in flats then, as others did have heels and uhm, golden sandals yikes??)
As for the gown - wear what you like and feel comfortable in! (Usually some sort of compromise can be achieved here too!) I had a lovely knee-length dress, nothing too flashy.. and a shawl to wrap myself in.. Just know that things with wires in (corset-like or such) only look good on pictures! (Not good for when you're sitting and trying to eat all the yummies!!)
And yes there will be yummies, most likely (if weddings over there are anything like ours) so just imagine how fun it will be to eat the yummies and wedding cake etc?
People will be looking at the bride, and you will be looking at the bride too..lf/when you get married, this will be good practice too!
You won't have to speak most probably (?) (you can discuss this, and the scenario, and what would be expected of you), and if there are more bridesmaids you can go together, so it's easier!
It's normal to cry at weddings or be sad, so this won't be such a big deal either, if you'd be visibly upset - hey a good friend's getting married!
Anyone could be touched. Maybe some mints or mint tea or mint drops on handkerchief or some other pick-me-ups could help?
Oh, and definitely eat enough on the day so you won't be too hungry and any alcohol will have less effect then too..
Do discuss any costs aforehand, and contemplate this side of it (I don't know what's expected over there), you can even look at some Polish forums...? In my country, expectations are different than in US, and many brides may have different expectations etc.
Courage! Fingers crossed all goes well!!
