accidentprone
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Initially, I thought it would be a good idea to room with a "friend" from High School, because I'd feel more comfortable around somebody I already know... Little did I know. I've recently gotten a bit closer to him to the point of knowing many details in his life. He often shares with me many of his personal issues so he's opened up to me and everything.
Just from what I've noticed, I've been doing all the "work" in this friendship. I'm always the one who has to initiate conversations only to receive half-*** responses on his part UNLESS it has something to do about girls. He only ever talks about his problems and girls never really asking me how I'm doing or if he can help me with anything. Whenever I try sharing problems, I, again, don't get much effort on his part. He just blows it off and tries inserting his problems so it can be all about him...
Another thing I've noticed is that he treats his other "friends" from college much better. He'll console them if they're ever feeling bad and tell them how much they mean to him... I actually addressed this with him once, asking him why he's nicer to his other friends. To which he responded "I'm usually meaner to people I'm closer with. Sorry." That's it.
Sorry for the rant. I'm just about to sink into frustration again because I've had trouble connecting with other people and I really only have him in my life in college right now but I'm not sure whether I should just drop him as a friend. Yes, I live in the same room as him and I think I can stick it out for one more semester but I'm not used to having friends in my life so I usually can't pick up on when people are using me... Would you consider this is just a phony, insincere friendship?
Advice? Thank you.
Just from what I've noticed, I've been doing all the "work" in this friendship. I'm always the one who has to initiate conversations only to receive half-*** responses on his part UNLESS it has something to do about girls. He only ever talks about his problems and girls never really asking me how I'm doing or if he can help me with anything. Whenever I try sharing problems, I, again, don't get much effort on his part. He just blows it off and tries inserting his problems so it can be all about him...
Another thing I've noticed is that he treats his other "friends" from college much better. He'll console them if they're ever feeling bad and tell them how much they mean to him... I actually addressed this with him once, asking him why he's nicer to his other friends. To which he responded "I'm usually meaner to people I'm closer with. Sorry." That's it.
Sorry for the rant. I'm just about to sink into frustration again because I've had trouble connecting with other people and I really only have him in my life in college right now but I'm not sure whether I should just drop him as a friend. Yes, I live in the same room as him and I think I can stick it out for one more semester but I'm not used to having friends in my life so I usually can't pick up on when people are using me... Would you consider this is just a phony, insincere friendship?
Advice? Thank you.