So Jezza
Appreciate your answers and feedback you seem like a clued up guy who knows what's he talking about and is good at giving people and myself advice. After all this my question how do you cope?
It's made living my life so difficult. Jobs and working is very hard in fact I've been out of proper work for nearly 5 years, and having romantic relations impossible, my social skills like eating out with friends or a dinner party or even going to the pub or club is a lottery, sometimes due to alcohol I do ok other times I have to make my excuses and leave, which results in me not being asked back out again, painfull viscious cycle.
What makes it worse is that before HH fully kicked in I had a taste of real life not having to worry not having to base everything from what to wear to how I get to place on sweating.
Have you just come to accept it?
How do you cope?
Yeah well pretty similar in fact...though I try to the things I would have without HH as much as possible anyway. I do use ionto which helps a bit, but with the generalised HH, it's still a big problem. As for socially the biggest challenge is with chicks obviously, the whole sweaty thing is just not comfortable physically, plus it makes you seem nervous and be nervous. Now at the risk of getting a bit cynical here I also feel like it causes 'mismatch' situations. You know I subscribe to the theory on the TV show friends that people who are a 'number from 1 to 10' should generally end up with someone within 2 points of their own number -yes I know this is shallow and cynical to say but let's face it, it's reality-. The sweating kinda knocks a few points of what you'd normally be, so you end up with a potential pool of chicks that uhm...have some flaws as well. I find it difficult to really see myself be happy in that situation cause when you run into the limitations I'll either get annoyed by myself or by her or the whole situation and it's just not good for anybody. So because I'm not really a douchebag despite of the above maybe suggesting I am, I usually avoid that whole scenario. This of course does mean that relationships beyond a bit of flirtation are nearly impossible and yes, so far non-existent.
As for other things I think I manage quite well to have a pretty 'normal' life although in any activity, the HH plays a negative part as anyone who has it will know. But I have a group of friends I hang out with, go to the occassional dinner or festival etc...I play sports regularly outside on saturdays with a bunch of guys, I studied abroad for a semester which was awesome even with the HH (without would be that much more awesome but that's how it is)...I really go out of my way sometimes not to avoid things I'd normally like to do for HH reasons and usually that turns out to be the right choice.
Jobs are a bit more difficult, I finished college 1,5 years ago (already deliberately taking some extra years to do some other courses as the job prospects in finance looked bleak) but obviously job interviews are a tough one. I'm unemployed now but I'm actually not too worried about that right now, think it'll sort itself out in time, just a matter of one interview going my way...(hey who knows, someone might find my sweatyness endearing and be able to look through it to see that for lot's of jobs in finance it really doesn't matter in the day-to-day stuff you actually have to do). Alternatively I think I might just take up another study entirely cause I was never really that into Finance anyway, it just seemed like a pretty broad decent study at the time I had to choose and I liked the movie Wallstreet with Charlie Sheen. It would suck to have another few years of limited cash at this age but well...probably still be a good bunch of years left to live afterwards and given the trouble with the ladies it's not like I'll have to provide for children anytime soon.
All in all I guess I haven't really accepted HH as something that some people just have and have to deal with and is 'normal' in any way, cause that would imply I'm not looking to see some kind of cure out there anymore. I have accepted that I have HH for the moment however and that all one can do is maximise what you have at the moment no matter how bleak that is...which I do admit sometimes feels really really bleak, which makes making the effort pretty hard. I guess I kind of try (and in some cases fail) to do the things necessary to live for the day that a solution becomes available, which I still (perhaps unrealistically) feel is possible in the next few years, so that when the solution comes I'm ready (enough) to step right in and take advantage of it and there's not too much slack that has to be picked up first.
So yeah...I kind of cope by being optimistic about the future, eventhough as I'm about the same age as you I also see it dwindling before my eyes sometimes.
h: but I feel I've done about all I can do without a research lab at my disposal, so...anybody has any ideas how to get one of those?
