Tim001
Well-known member
There are many things I hate about SP, but one of my biggest regrets is that I have never been able to stand up for myself. I avoid confrontations at all costs and if I do get in a situation where I need to stand up for my rights, it never ends well.
In an ideal world, people would treat each other with respect and courtesy rather than trying to step over each other to gain some sort of advantage. Sadly, it seems that some view timidness and shyness as a green light to express their “superiority” at the expense of the quieter more reserved person.
I have had several instances where any “normal” person would have stood up for themselves and maintained their dignity, but in my case, I always let it go. If I am forced to confront someone, I stammer and turn so red in the face that I am sure they admit defeat simply to prevent me from having some sort of seizure.
From people stealing parking spots to cutting in front of me in line, to having to complain about some very bad and obviously lousy service, to having to protect someone’s honor; it goes on and on. The end result is usually that I make a fool of myself and afterwards to play it over and over in my head, beating myself up over it. Confrontations like this can make me feel lower than low, long after the incident is over. Disgust, anger and total loss of any self-esteem that I thought I had are pretty much the norm.
An experience like this is like poison to my system. I am miserable for days and feel like I just got my last shred of dignity snatched away. Generally, it takes a lot for me to feel good about myself even if everything is going ok. An incident like this for me is devastating. Anyone else ever feel this way?
Tim
In an ideal world, people would treat each other with respect and courtesy rather than trying to step over each other to gain some sort of advantage. Sadly, it seems that some view timidness and shyness as a green light to express their “superiority” at the expense of the quieter more reserved person.
I have had several instances where any “normal” person would have stood up for themselves and maintained their dignity, but in my case, I always let it go. If I am forced to confront someone, I stammer and turn so red in the face that I am sure they admit defeat simply to prevent me from having some sort of seizure.
From people stealing parking spots to cutting in front of me in line, to having to complain about some very bad and obviously lousy service, to having to protect someone’s honor; it goes on and on. The end result is usually that I make a fool of myself and afterwards to play it over and over in my head, beating myself up over it. Confrontations like this can make me feel lower than low, long after the incident is over. Disgust, anger and total loss of any self-esteem that I thought I had are pretty much the norm.
An experience like this is like poison to my system. I am miserable for days and feel like I just got my last shred of dignity snatched away. Generally, it takes a lot for me to feel good about myself even if everything is going ok. An incident like this for me is devastating. Anyone else ever feel this way?
Tim