WOW. Kiwong, I am simply amazed at the stuff you do... It's awesome you are doing these things for the club and fundraising etc...
I always thought you were a good person.. now I admire you even more..
Please don't think you have to 'prove' anything to yourself or to others though.. Do it if you want to help, not to 'buy' their love or appreciation or whatever.. or 'peaceful conscience'.. You're a good person already...
Okay, when do they tell you these mean and spiteful things, before or after the race, or during? It might help to know. Are that women or men? Older or younger than you, or equal age? Better or worse in running as you are?
You wrote yourself you are one of the best in running... That alone can make people jealous and say stupid spiteful things.. to 'bring you down a notch'.. if you concentrate on the race, they may see you as 'aloof' or even 'arrogant'.. (not saying it's so, it's just a possibility, another very shy girl I knew told me others saw her this way, when she was just very shy...)
Have you ever watched a baseball game on tv? People insult each other or give each other mean looks all the time to 'confuse' the opponent? And 'win' the game.. Could you find one of such movies to watch? (Maybe it would help with 'desensitivization'?)
I was actually joking above (with the T-shirts), trying to cheer you up a bit.. Not sure if T-shirts could actually be seen, you need to have a number on yourself, right?
Even people who are normal 'check out' other people, it's normal.. some do it more or less discreetly.. (maybe some girls are even 'insulted' if you
don't check 'em out, hm? it really depends on the people..)
Well, most people are 'weird'.. unless they are boring.. and in my book, it's better to be 'weird' (think 'odd', 'interesting', 'unusual', 'unique', 'fascinating'...) than 'boring', no?
One of the best compliments a guy ever gave me was, 'Wow, you're one of the weirdest girls I know..'
I was really flattered, ha ha..
People think you're shallow? Well, apparently those people don't know you very well, do they? Or maybe more likely they are shallow themselves?
Often people accuse others of what they dislike in themselves, yeah..
I don't think people dislike you because of your anxiety, they dislike you possibly over something else, or project things on you.. If you were sociable they might find something to dislike too.. or call you names.. If you were a big bad mean-looking guy they might not dare to express it openly though.. (Could you make friends with a big guy who'd be like a 'bodyguard' to you and give a mean eye to the others? A big girl or 'fan club' of supporters could maybe do the same too?)
Have you ever learnt martial arts? They teach non-violence first of all, it might make you feel more confident though.. Or maybe there's like a course on assertive or anti-bullying or non-violent communication or such?
If you find a good psychologist, that can maybe help too, yeah. If you find one, do tell us how it goes! (I have had a problem in another similar situation so I'm actually personally interested in finding a good answer and way to go about it too..) Sorry if it seemed like I was just joking around.. I'm actually interested in this too..