JoeRandomUser
Well-known member
Hi Guys,
I've made a decision today that I won't be posting here for the near future, so I guess this is goodbye.
I've decided to leave because I don't believe the forum here is the best place for me. I realize that the vast majority of posters here are very nice people who are trying their very damndest to overcome this fucking thing. But there is also a minority (a very small minority) who post stuff that honestly HURTS me to read. These people aren't here to share their thoughts and feelings with others in a spirit of openness, support, sharing and giving. They're here to complain -- to piss and moan about how life treats them poorly -- and they're doing the rest of us a disservice in the process. It is my personal opinion that people behaving this way bleed the life out of those of us who ARE here to help, support, and encourage each other. They're taking all and offering nothing. I can't speak for everybody, of course, but this "life sucks but damned if I'm gonna change" attitude that some people display certainly damages me, and is the reason for my leaving. I don't need that kind of negativity in my life!
I understand, like all of you, that there are times when we all hurt; when we feel depressed and bleak and miserable, and it looks like every silver lining has a cloud. In times like this it helps soooo much to have people to lean on; people to support you; people you can share your thoughts and feelings with; and this is what our community here is for! For every up there is a down, though, and you've got to maintain some sort of balance. In my mind there is a ticket price for entry into this community: in order to benefit from the help and support of other people, you gotta be willing to help others; and, most importantly, you've got to be willing to help yourself!. There's an old saying "you don't get nothing for nothing" that applies ubiquitously in life -- everybody knows that -- and I don't think this place should be any different. Without dedication and positive input by its members, the community quickly degenerates into a pity-party and noone goes anywhere but down. Imagine, for a second, what it'd be like if EVERYONE simply complained and nobody offered support or tried to get better...
Like I said above, I believe the vast majority of posters here live by this rule -- you're lovely people and I can't thank you enough for the help and support you've shown me over the last month or so. You have made me feel welcome, which is SUCH a rare and wonderful experience for me, and have helped me to feel comfortable enough to share some very personal details about my life and my personality; things that I've been hiding from myself for a very long time; things I desperately needed to talk about. You've helped me to learn SO much about myself and about the SA/SP condition in general, and I'm sad I feel I have to leave. I can only hope that some of what I've posted here during my stay has made a difference for you as well.
I wish you all the very best overcoming this bloody thing!
And even if you believe things will NEVER get better for you, I urge you to keep trying anyway (even if you do think it's pointless). Why? Because while ever you keep trying, there is a NON-ZERO probability, no matter how remote, that you CAN beat your social anxiety. Stop trying, and you've defaulted to failure -- there's ZERO probability of beating it if you give up.
You can't argue with logic, guys. ;-)
I've made a decision today that I won't be posting here for the near future, so I guess this is goodbye.
I've decided to leave because I don't believe the forum here is the best place for me. I realize that the vast majority of posters here are very nice people who are trying their very damndest to overcome this fucking thing. But there is also a minority (a very small minority) who post stuff that honestly HURTS me to read. These people aren't here to share their thoughts and feelings with others in a spirit of openness, support, sharing and giving. They're here to complain -- to piss and moan about how life treats them poorly -- and they're doing the rest of us a disservice in the process. It is my personal opinion that people behaving this way bleed the life out of those of us who ARE here to help, support, and encourage each other. They're taking all and offering nothing. I can't speak for everybody, of course, but this "life sucks but damned if I'm gonna change" attitude that some people display certainly damages me, and is the reason for my leaving. I don't need that kind of negativity in my life!
I understand, like all of you, that there are times when we all hurt; when we feel depressed and bleak and miserable, and it looks like every silver lining has a cloud. In times like this it helps soooo much to have people to lean on; people to support you; people you can share your thoughts and feelings with; and this is what our community here is for! For every up there is a down, though, and you've got to maintain some sort of balance. In my mind there is a ticket price for entry into this community: in order to benefit from the help and support of other people, you gotta be willing to help others; and, most importantly, you've got to be willing to help yourself!. There's an old saying "you don't get nothing for nothing" that applies ubiquitously in life -- everybody knows that -- and I don't think this place should be any different. Without dedication and positive input by its members, the community quickly degenerates into a pity-party and noone goes anywhere but down. Imagine, for a second, what it'd be like if EVERYONE simply complained and nobody offered support or tried to get better...
Like I said above, I believe the vast majority of posters here live by this rule -- you're lovely people and I can't thank you enough for the help and support you've shown me over the last month or so. You have made me feel welcome, which is SUCH a rare and wonderful experience for me, and have helped me to feel comfortable enough to share some very personal details about my life and my personality; things that I've been hiding from myself for a very long time; things I desperately needed to talk about. You've helped me to learn SO much about myself and about the SA/SP condition in general, and I'm sad I feel I have to leave. I can only hope that some of what I've posted here during my stay has made a difference for you as well.
I wish you all the very best overcoming this bloody thing!
And even if you believe things will NEVER get better for you, I urge you to keep trying anyway (even if you do think it's pointless). Why? Because while ever you keep trying, there is a NON-ZERO probability, no matter how remote, that you CAN beat your social anxiety. Stop trying, and you've defaulted to failure -- there's ZERO probability of beating it if you give up.
You can't argue with logic, guys. ;-)