odetoanoddity
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OK, so I've been avoiding applying for jobs these past few weeks. However, I'd say that the fact that I'm looking in the first place is an improvement on my part. It means I'm taking the necessary steps, however how small they may be... :\
I am 20, turning 21 in March and I've never had a job. The idea of working with other people just freaks me out and I've been avoiding it for years now. I'd see friends since highschool, working part time and talking about it amongst themselves. I wouldn't have anything to share because I'm jobless and have been jobless so far :| It'd make me feel ashamed when people would ask if I have a job So they'd recommend jobs I could apply for and I'd be like "oh yeah, I'll think about applying for that!"
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but I never do, and it's because of this crippling social anxiety :thumbdown:
My friends don't know about this... the only people that do know are my boyfriend and my best friend.
I've had some kind of team experience before, from doing group projects and group work at University, but that's because I sorta had no choice in that. If I *did* have a choice, I'd rather be working alone...
But I'm at a rather difficult time in my life where I'm wondering what I want in this life and where I'll be... and it's this damned SA and depression that's bringing me down and has really made my life miserable - I haven't even reached my potential at all because I am always assuming the worst and putting myself down Yet even *I* don't want to be in this continual rut for the rest of my life. I want to work so I can feel some sort of validation - as in, I don't need to rely on my parents or student benefits for cash. I can feel financially independent and ergo feel... good... Feel good about myself that I can do something, a feeling of accomplishment and so on and so forth..
Anyway, I had a inner dialogue with myself right at the beginning of 2013. I was going to find a job before I turn 21 - that was the erm, promise, I had made to myself. I've sent expressions of interest emails to department stores and somewhat started on a resume to send. So I *have* started these slow and small baby steps towards this goal, its just that... well, there's still the issue of my SA - job interviews freak me out and makes me nauseous...
So I've kinda put the whole traditional job search aside for a while and focused on methods to earn cash online. I've done online surveys and gotten paid, signed up for paid focus groups, currently 'working' in affiliate marketing and getting paid to click and watch advertisements. Cumulatively, out of all of the sites I've joined, I've earned only just $12+ Australian dollars. Of course, I knew that this wasn't going to get me some serious cash overnight, but I thought I'd try anyway.. Any way to make me delay finding a real job, I guess :\
I have yet to offer my services in freelancing and I'm still sketching what niche topic to cover on my blog in order to earn some money - but from what research I've done, these things can bring in the cash in the $$$ - $$$$$ digit range (provided that it's done properly). So I'll see what I can with this, as well as continue doing the other things I've been doing...
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Anyway, apologies about the rambling post :| I'm new here and if you managed to read this until the end, my questions to you are:
1) Have you ever experienced social anxiety so bad to the point that it affected you finding a job?
2) Have you ever experienced social anxiety so bad to the point that it affected you finding a job, HOWEVER, you overcame these issues. If so, HOW did you do it?
and 3) If you have looked for ways to earn money online, do you have any recommendations for legitimate online survey sites, PTC sites and freelancing sites etc that have helped you earn money - share your success stories here!
I am 20, turning 21 in March and I've never had a job. The idea of working with other people just freaks me out and I've been avoiding it for years now. I'd see friends since highschool, working part time and talking about it amongst themselves. I wouldn't have anything to share because I'm jobless and have been jobless so far :| It'd make me feel ashamed when people would ask if I have a job So they'd recommend jobs I could apply for and I'd be like "oh yeah, I'll think about applying for that!"
...
but I never do, and it's because of this crippling social anxiety :thumbdown:
My friends don't know about this... the only people that do know are my boyfriend and my best friend.
I've had some kind of team experience before, from doing group projects and group work at University, but that's because I sorta had no choice in that. If I *did* have a choice, I'd rather be working alone...
But I'm at a rather difficult time in my life where I'm wondering what I want in this life and where I'll be... and it's this damned SA and depression that's bringing me down and has really made my life miserable - I haven't even reached my potential at all because I am always assuming the worst and putting myself down Yet even *I* don't want to be in this continual rut for the rest of my life. I want to work so I can feel some sort of validation - as in, I don't need to rely on my parents or student benefits for cash. I can feel financially independent and ergo feel... good... Feel good about myself that I can do something, a feeling of accomplishment and so on and so forth..
Anyway, I had a inner dialogue with myself right at the beginning of 2013. I was going to find a job before I turn 21 - that was the erm, promise, I had made to myself. I've sent expressions of interest emails to department stores and somewhat started on a resume to send. So I *have* started these slow and small baby steps towards this goal, its just that... well, there's still the issue of my SA - job interviews freak me out and makes me nauseous...
So I've kinda put the whole traditional job search aside for a while and focused on methods to earn cash online. I've done online surveys and gotten paid, signed up for paid focus groups, currently 'working' in affiliate marketing and getting paid to click and watch advertisements. Cumulatively, out of all of the sites I've joined, I've earned only just $12+ Australian dollars. Of course, I knew that this wasn't going to get me some serious cash overnight, but I thought I'd try anyway.. Any way to make me delay finding a real job, I guess :\
I have yet to offer my services in freelancing and I'm still sketching what niche topic to cover on my blog in order to earn some money - but from what research I've done, these things can bring in the cash in the $$$ - $$$$$ digit range (provided that it's done properly). So I'll see what I can with this, as well as continue doing the other things I've been doing...
---
Anyway, apologies about the rambling post :| I'm new here and if you managed to read this until the end, my questions to you are:
1) Have you ever experienced social anxiety so bad to the point that it affected you finding a job?
2) Have you ever experienced social anxiety so bad to the point that it affected you finding a job, HOWEVER, you overcame these issues. If so, HOW did you do it?
and 3) If you have looked for ways to earn money online, do you have any recommendations for legitimate online survey sites, PTC sites and freelancing sites etc that have helped you earn money - share your success stories here!