Do some of you guys only feel lonely whenever you are depressed?

[sevenroses]

Do some of you guys only feel lonely whenever you are depressed? I sometimes feel like that. Like I'm fine being single and free whenever there is nothing wrong with life but when I feel down and out I just feel extremely lonely. I don't really bother trying to get really close to someone because that isn't really right. I really I know I'm weird and that's kind of bad. I don't know if anyone else can relate.

 

[3lefts]

I always feel lonely.
But I notice it's strongest when I'm the happiest. If I have nobody to share a laugh, if I have nobody to share what makes me happy... a worse kind of depression follows that's different from just a sulking, ugh kind of depressed. It's utter sadness and a bit of emptiness in the heart.
I know what you mean about it not being right though, when you're depressed and wanting someone, then it doesn't feel genuine, just a need and an indulgence that doesn't solve anything.
I think you just have to tough it out in this situation, if you want a relationship that is based off of a healthy coexistence rather than one that comforts your sadness. Your depression will never go away if it's what your relationship is built off of.

 

[Interzone]

Do some of you guys only feel lonely whenever you are depressed? I sometimes feel like that. Like I'm fine being single and free whenever there is nothing wrong with life but when I feel down and out I just feel extremely lonely. I don't really bother trying to get really close to someone because that isn't really right. I really I know I'm weird and that's kind of bad. I don't know if anyone else can relate.

I can relate, it's almost the same exact way for me as you described it. It sucks.

 

[Forgotten-Children]

I feel lonely whenever I think about being lonely. Like a lot of the time, I just wish I could be hugged by my boyfriend but he lives far south from me in another state. >:

I know I'm not actually alone but I kinda wish to my self that every night I could just be able to cuddle up to someone but I really can't unless it's a cat or my Bulbasaur plushie.

 

[Snowdrop]

I understand exactly what you mean. I've suffered from depression for many years now and when I get the bouts of extreme low mood, all my negative emotions will intensify including loneliness. I will feel very dark and as if no one cares about me yet at the same time closed in on myself as well like I don't wish anyone to talk to me either. It's a horrible feeling that I'm still trying to work out.
Don't worry though, you are definitely not alone - so many people who suffer from depression get this and so do people who don't. We're all human after all.

 

[FountainandFairfax]

Yeah, I agree that this time of year is rough. Moments that you would share and relive if you were with someone kind of just get washed away when you’re alone.

 

[Fighter86]

Do some of you guys only feel lonely whenever you are depressed? I sometimes feel like that. Like I'm fine being single and free whenever there is nothing wrong with life but when I feel down and out I just feel extremely lonely. I don't really bother trying to get really close to someone because that isn't really right. I really I know I'm weird and that's kind of bad. I don't know if anyone else can relate.

It's not weird, I feel the same way. When things are good, its cool being single, but when I am upset or stressed out I feel a desperate need to be close to someone.

 

[SeniorRedrings]

Yes.That's pretty much the way I feel too.

 

[Tinkertoes]

Yes, when i feel sad im lonely feeling.
But that is probably because i feel as if no one feels how i feel
Right Then.
I feel lonely because i feel alienated.
Everyone feels lonely.
Don't be sad.
We're all here for you.
Even if u don't know who we really are.

 

[this_portrait]

It's actually reversed for me. I feel depressed whenever I feel lonely.

 

[Dead_on_Arrival]

I'm married and have been for nearly nine years, but I still feel alone when I am at my lowest. I feel as if there is no-one there I can talk too to help me through. I feel depressed when I'm around my wife if she is cooking or cleaning. I get down because I think she should not be doing these things and if she is it's because I have not done enough for her. I clean the house every morning when I get up while my daughter is getting ready for school so there is nothing for my wife to do when I leave the house with my daughter. If she makes lunch I follow her and clean up after she makes her lunch and then I collect her pots to wash them so she doesn't have to. It's the same when it comes to dinner time. If she does the ironing I get pangs of guilt that she is doing it and it should have been done by me so I find something else to clean and tidy to rid my head of the guilt. Even though my wife is there I still feel alone in my head. I am at my happiest if she is doing nothing but enjoying watching the TV, going out with our daughter or visiting friends or family.

 

[Kiwong]

I feel lonely when I am round the wrong kind of people.

 

[Fighter86]

I am at my happiest if she is doing nothing but enjoying watching the TV, going out with our daughter or visiting friends or family.

I think your wife's a very lucky woman having you

 

[Dead_on_Arrival]

I think your wife's a very lucky woman having you

Thank you, but try telling her that. It annoys her because she says I buzz around her all the time and making her paranoid cos I watch everything she's doing. I'm not, it's how her mind works.