Rainman
Well-known member
You would think, that because we understand how difficult it is for us in social situations, we would be able to emphathise with other SPers and shy people in general. We can become good friends with each other and begin our own social circles.
Funnily though, I don't think it works that way. I think when we come across somebody who is shyer than us, we don't see an opportunity to extend our compassion and empathy to them and give them our company, instead we see an opportunity to feel a sense of triumpth, or even somebody to exert our power over, so we feel better about ourselves.
It's the same dynamic that causes those more confident than us "normal people" to to do the same to us. I think, even if we did form a group of SPers, it would not be any different than any other group. There would still be a more popular and least popular one and the usua group politics.
At school, I noticed the same. I noticed that the unpopular kids had their own groups and clubs and their own rejects. It's as if secretly we all step on each other to make it the top; it's some surivival instinct?
Funnily though, I don't think it works that way. I think when we come across somebody who is shyer than us, we don't see an opportunity to extend our compassion and empathy to them and give them our company, instead we see an opportunity to feel a sense of triumpth, or even somebody to exert our power over, so we feel better about ourselves.
It's the same dynamic that causes those more confident than us "normal people" to to do the same to us. I think, even if we did form a group of SPers, it would not be any different than any other group. There would still be a more popular and least popular one and the usua group politics.
At school, I noticed the same. I noticed that the unpopular kids had their own groups and clubs and their own rejects. It's as if secretly we all step on each other to make it the top; it's some surivival instinct?