lil_ladii85 said:
I remember when i was growing up i was rarely allowed to go places. My friends would invite to sleepovers, the mall, or just to hang out and my mom would always tell me no. Im not blaming my mom for my social anxiety but i think her secluding me from the outside world growing up had a huge impact on it.
That all sounds familiar. I wasn't allowed to do anything or go anywhere, either. Sometimes, when kids from school would come to my house, my mother would say they weren't there to see me, they just wanted to see my horses. Gee, thanks, mom
. Like I wasn't worth it or something. My parents are both really socially backward, and have never had any friends for as long as I can remember. They both came from abusive homes, my dad grew up in an orphanage. Instead of learning from the misdeeds done unto them, they treated me the same way. I, however, have learned from their mistakes, and do not mistreat my son. I also allow him to have more freedom. More than I like sometimes, but I don't want him to grow up to be a frightened little mouse like I always was. I allow him to go out and play with the neighborhood kids, and I don't always know exactly where he is at all times. That is what I would like, but I try to force myself to give him some liberties.