FriendlyShadow
Well-known member
Though it shames me to admit it, i guess i've never been able to, for whatever reason, live a life based on what other people have taught me is successful.
you know like...
be likable, have friends, be confident, know what you want and then be fearless in your pursuit of it, get goods marks in school, excel in sports, have a body you're proud of, get a degree, find a job, find your soul mate, make money, settle down and have a family, and have kids that will do all the same stuff and will make you feel proud of them.
the truth is i've never at any stage of my life had the ability or courage to make any of that happen. so that's why i'm so ashamed of myself now and live with so much fear and sorrow. fear because i don't want people to see me as i am (a complete failure) and sorrow since when i compare myself to them i know how much better off they all seem to be.
i wish someone could tell me "don't worry, you're not like them, but they're not better than you, you've got your own road to follow. don't compare yourself to them. what's a success for them, doesn't have to be for you."
that would make me feel a lot better about myself.
I honestly cannot stand when people tell me what you've just described about being confident and finding your soul mate, ect. I'd be surprised if I could find even one person to achieve all of what people tell them to do, or rather a person who does everything perfectly. This is no helpful advice. I could accept something like Just try the best you can, but people actually pressure having this perfect ideal shoved upon other people's doings, if that makes any sense. I just can't be what people expect me to be.