Sacrament
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Hey guys, haven't been here a while.
So here's what's been troubling me as of late: I suffer from anxiety. My life experiences, since childhood, have not been the best. I was bullied from 1st grade through 9th grade, got in relationships where I dedicated myself fully and things didn't go as planned, and have always been self-conscious about certain things (face getting red easily from flushing or blushing, paranoid with my teeth, being a few pounds overweight and striving for unachievable levels of supposed perfection, disliking my eyebrows etc [I probably suffer from BDD to a certain level). This hinders many things for me. I feel uneasy with others, I have trouble accepting good things, I am afraid of the world (not in the sense where I'm afraid to leave the house, but in the sense that I'm always on alert, afraid that something bad will happen just around the corner, and not necessarily to me, but to those I love), and I am especially afraid of being happy. All of this also makes me avoid certain situations, and it makes me feel like I'm not enough, and thus don't deserve the things I do have.
I have a job, I have a girlfriend who loves me, and I have good health if I don't think about my anxiety issues. Because the relationship is just a few months old, and considering how 95% of the relationships I've had in the past had their own special ways of going wrong, including a 3 year relationship where the other person cheated (she told me, but only after quite a while), and a 7 month 'relationship' where I was told that it would be "the biggest mistake of my life" if that person didn't stay with me, but they were too weak to stay.
What I'm trying to get to is this: we can't live in anxiety forever, no matter how messed up things have been in the past. So, how do I stop worrying? How do I flip the switch or take the necessary steps to be able to do it? How do I wake up, take a deep breath, think of all the positive possibilities (instead of focusing on every worst case scenario for every situation) a day has to offer, and accept my fears as unlikely things? How do you turn sour into sweet? How do you flip things around and become able to fight for the things you want and need with discipline and focus, instead of the urge not to do anything because you will lose them anyway? Basically, how do you take that leap of faith into becoming an optimistic, a person who welcomes the world as a beautiful thing and stops fearing it so much?
What has helped you?
So here's what's been troubling me as of late: I suffer from anxiety. My life experiences, since childhood, have not been the best. I was bullied from 1st grade through 9th grade, got in relationships where I dedicated myself fully and things didn't go as planned, and have always been self-conscious about certain things (face getting red easily from flushing or blushing, paranoid with my teeth, being a few pounds overweight and striving for unachievable levels of supposed perfection, disliking my eyebrows etc [I probably suffer from BDD to a certain level). This hinders many things for me. I feel uneasy with others, I have trouble accepting good things, I am afraid of the world (not in the sense where I'm afraid to leave the house, but in the sense that I'm always on alert, afraid that something bad will happen just around the corner, and not necessarily to me, but to those I love), and I am especially afraid of being happy. All of this also makes me avoid certain situations, and it makes me feel like I'm not enough, and thus don't deserve the things I do have.
I have a job, I have a girlfriend who loves me, and I have good health if I don't think about my anxiety issues. Because the relationship is just a few months old, and considering how 95% of the relationships I've had in the past had their own special ways of going wrong, including a 3 year relationship where the other person cheated (she told me, but only after quite a while), and a 7 month 'relationship' where I was told that it would be "the biggest mistake of my life" if that person didn't stay with me, but they were too weak to stay.
What I'm trying to get to is this: we can't live in anxiety forever, no matter how messed up things have been in the past. So, how do I stop worrying? How do I flip the switch or take the necessary steps to be able to do it? How do I wake up, take a deep breath, think of all the positive possibilities (instead of focusing on every worst case scenario for every situation) a day has to offer, and accept my fears as unlikely things? How do you turn sour into sweet? How do you flip things around and become able to fight for the things you want and need with discipline and focus, instead of the urge not to do anything because you will lose them anyway? Basically, how do you take that leap of faith into becoming an optimistic, a person who welcomes the world as a beautiful thing and stops fearing it so much?
What has helped you?
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