sickofbeinglonely
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Frustrated but fascinated by female feet in flip flops
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Yeah, I hear you man, I love cute feet on a woman. It's just important to not take it out of context or be wierd about it, but where do you draw the line, you know? I mean you can't be caught staring or harrassing anyone in a way that would suggest what you're into. But there are subtle ways of attaining the right woman that fulfills you (and your fetish). Just put things into perspective and try not to go overboard - you can be sued for anything these days. :wink:
SqueakyGibson
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Hmm. This is the only forum I know where people can talk about the things you talked about! But I respect you for being open. Not many people would.
Okay, so I'm not going to judge you about the foot fetish - I think feet can be attractive. I think we all have favourite bodyparts (I love bellybuttons...) and get a little thrill when we see them in public. I even know what you're saying about the thrill of seeing it; it's the same thrill as if a girl walked down the street with her breasts exposed, only it's her feet, right? There's an obscenity to it that is thrilling. You're fascinated about her character, as a person who chooses to bare herself in such an obscene way. Yet nobody notices it's obscene except you. Right? Is that how you feel?
But it sounds clear that you're worried about the healthiness of your fetish, and how much it is hurting your ability to relate to women.
Your post sounds a little confused. Do you want help to lessen the fetish to a more healthy scale, or do you want female forum members to turn you on by talking about their bare feet and flip-flops?
So you selectively want friends with the single character trait: they are the kind of girl who wears flip-flops? Trouble is, that character trait means nothing to them. They don't think it defines them at all. So I'm not sure why a female would want to take you up on the offer here. I apologise for being negative.
Just think: if you eventually manage to have a regular productive relationship with a woman, she'd probably often be barefoot when she hangs out with you. She'd be barefoot when you have sex. I don't know if you can hope for a girlfriend who lets you suck her toes, but hey, it's a possibility. However, your chances of having a regular girlfriend are reduced a great deal if you come across as a creepy foot-fetishist. Ironically, you're more likely to get a barefoot girlfriend if you play it cool and don't try to find a girl who complies with your foot fetish requirements.
Okay, so I'm not going to judge you about the foot fetish - I think feet can be attractive. I think we all have favourite bodyparts (I love bellybuttons...) and get a little thrill when we see them in public. I even know what you're saying about the thrill of seeing it; it's the same thrill as if a girl walked down the street with her breasts exposed, only it's her feet, right? There's an obscenity to it that is thrilling. You're fascinated about her character, as a person who chooses to bare herself in such an obscene way. Yet nobody notices it's obscene except you. Right? Is that how you feel?
But it sounds clear that you're worried about the healthiness of your fetish, and how much it is hurting your ability to relate to women.
Your post sounds a little confused. Do you want help to lessen the fetish to a more healthy scale, or do you want female forum members to turn you on by talking about their bare feet and flip-flops?
So you selectively want friends with the single character trait: they are the kind of girl who wears flip-flops? Trouble is, that character trait means nothing to them. They don't think it defines them at all. So I'm not sure why a female would want to take you up on the offer here. I apologise for being negative.
Just think: if you eventually manage to have a regular productive relationship with a woman, she'd probably often be barefoot when she hangs out with you. She'd be barefoot when you have sex. I don't know if you can hope for a girlfriend who lets you suck her toes, but hey, it's a possibility. However, your chances of having a regular girlfriend are reduced a great deal if you come across as a creepy foot-fetishist. Ironically, you're more likely to get a barefoot girlfriend if you play it cool and don't try to find a girl who complies with your foot fetish requirements.
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SqueakyGibson
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I wrote my post not knowing the extent of your problem. But to be fair, it's a very hard and unique problem to understand and I'm not surprised if most people fail to. Hell, I probably still haven't understood completely.
The dual fascination/attraction and loathing/obscenity about feet is unique - I've never heard that before. Oddly though, I can kind of relate. When I was a child I was disgusted by feet as well. One of my first ever memories was in pre-school, where everyone was asked to take off their shoes and socks to do paint footprints. I was so disgusted that I refused to do it. Then I remember around the age of 12 I was at the swimming baths and this girl was talking to me. She was quirky and said lots of random weird things, among which she said, "Do you like my feet?" I was like, "Uhh, I don't know. I guess." And I realised I was no longer disgusted by feet. Mens feet still creep me out a bit, but womens can look nice.
Sorry, I got off the point. I can relate how you feel about feet with my feeling towards women in general. I have such an unfulfilled sexual urge for women, but I'm so scared and disgusted by them too. I want to have very satisfying sex with a woman; but every time I'm reminded that women have sex with other men, I get upset and judge female promiscuity badly. Seeing women revealing themselves sexually makes me upset about the fact that they are sexual beings, yet I want to have sex with them. One reason I don't go out and socialise is because I will always be tortured by these feelings every time I see a woman. I would always leave a party depressed, knowing the revealing outfit a girl wore wasn't intended for my eyes; the laughter and happiness that came out of her mouth wasn't caused by me or aimed at me; and the sex she'll be having with her boyfriend tonight won't be with me. I loathe her for it. I love her for it.
I know my feelings are very screwed up. Perhaps your feelings are the same as mine, psychologically speaking, only you've focussed them into one bodypart rather than women as a whole.
You might benefit from psychotherapy. That goes deep into your childhood. It could probably root out a reason why feet became an obsession. It won't help you get over it, but at least you might learn why. Then other kinds of therapy to become a productive person who is neither disgusted nor unhealthily attracted to feet.
Clearly a request to befriend people who wear flip-flops would be fuelling a problem that is hurting your life. I still miss a lot of the point, sorry. I can't understand why having a girlfriend who wear flip-flops in public would subdue your anguish. Is it because, if you have a pair of flip-flop-clad female feet in your "possession", other people's wouldn't torture you? I'm sorry I can't dig that far into your feelings to understand.
The dual fascination/attraction and loathing/obscenity about feet is unique - I've never heard that before. Oddly though, I can kind of relate. When I was a child I was disgusted by feet as well. One of my first ever memories was in pre-school, where everyone was asked to take off their shoes and socks to do paint footprints. I was so disgusted that I refused to do it. Then I remember around the age of 12 I was at the swimming baths and this girl was talking to me. She was quirky and said lots of random weird things, among which she said, "Do you like my feet?" I was like, "Uhh, I don't know. I guess." And I realised I was no longer disgusted by feet. Mens feet still creep me out a bit, but womens can look nice.
Sorry, I got off the point. I can relate how you feel about feet with my feeling towards women in general. I have such an unfulfilled sexual urge for women, but I'm so scared and disgusted by them too. I want to have very satisfying sex with a woman; but every time I'm reminded that women have sex with other men, I get upset and judge female promiscuity badly. Seeing women revealing themselves sexually makes me upset about the fact that they are sexual beings, yet I want to have sex with them. One reason I don't go out and socialise is because I will always be tortured by these feelings every time I see a woman. I would always leave a party depressed, knowing the revealing outfit a girl wore wasn't intended for my eyes; the laughter and happiness that came out of her mouth wasn't caused by me or aimed at me; and the sex she'll be having with her boyfriend tonight won't be with me. I loathe her for it. I love her for it.
I know my feelings are very screwed up. Perhaps your feelings are the same as mine, psychologically speaking, only you've focussed them into one bodypart rather than women as a whole.
You might benefit from psychotherapy. That goes deep into your childhood. It could probably root out a reason why feet became an obsession. It won't help you get over it, but at least you might learn why. Then other kinds of therapy to become a productive person who is neither disgusted nor unhealthily attracted to feet.
Clearly a request to befriend people who wear flip-flops would be fuelling a problem that is hurting your life. I still miss a lot of the point, sorry. I can't understand why having a girlfriend who wear flip-flops in public would subdue your anguish. Is it because, if you have a pair of flip-flop-clad female feet in your "possession", other people's wouldn't torture you? I'm sorry I can't dig that far into your feelings to understand.
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carebear
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i think what probably makes feet attractive is this very fact. anything that brings our attention to a certain part of the body. It could be ugly to or downright discusting but we may have an obsession with that part of the body because we are unsure of it. there is nothing particularly special about feet but I think people are drawn to them because they say something about a person's body. they are like a body-statement...like boobs-
there are many different types of boobs out there like there are many diff types of feet. if you think about it boobs are nothing but bags of fat. they are probably less interesting than feet!...so being that a lot of men have an obsession with boobs, I can CLEARLY understand your obsession with feet...you aren't crazy or anything. 8O
sickofbeinglonely
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Hi Carebear! 
It's good to hear from someone who can understand my obsession with feet. There is this tendency in our society to focus on things that we find disgusting, often in the name of humour! Why else would there be so many jokes made about body fluids and that type of thing? :lol: :lol: :lol: I've heard several people say that a person can be attracted to something they find repulsive! Or be interested in things that are grotesque.... :?
Somebody once used a phrase "To escape the horror bury yourself in it". My own interpretation of that was that by becoming obsessed with something you disliked or found disturbing and shocking, the shock of it would wear off. There've been a few things I've initially disliked that I've ended up becoming obsessed with. Some of these obsessions have died a death. (Can I say "death" on here?!?) 8)
I've never found boobs very exciting. An ex-friend of mine was obsessed with women's boobs and loved to indulge in sexist humour. Benny Hill i think his name was... :lol: :lol:
Another guy I know is obsessed with women's arses and can be really vulgar sometimes. I actually find this talk a bit offensive, especially when he comes out with such perverted gems as "I'd like to smash in her backdoors!" Not pleasant being in his company when he's like that...
Cutefluffykitten, I envy you, I really do! :wink: I long for the opportunity to make love like that!! Did you get my last PM by the way? Hope you weren't too put off by me talking about my friend who died in February. I really miss him some days. He hated the sight of feet and couldn't understand what I could possibly see in them. :?: But he was fascinated by science and religion and did Bible studies for some time. I like to think Jesus loved him too...
It's good to hear from someone who can understand my obsession with feet.
There is this tendency in our society to focus on things that we find disgusting, often in the name of humour! Why else would there be so many jokes made about body fluids and that type of thing? :lol: :lol: :lol: I've heard several people say that a person can be attracted to something they find repulsive! Or be interested in things that are grotesque.... :? Somebody once used a phrase "To escape the horror bury yourself in it". My own interpretation of that was that by becoming obsessed with something you disliked or found disturbing and shocking, the shock of it would wear off. There've been a few things I've initially disliked that I've ended up becoming obsessed with. Some of these obsessions have died a death. (Can I say "death" on here?!?) 8)
I've never found boobs very exciting. An ex-friend of mine was obsessed with women's boobs and loved to indulge in sexist humour. Benny Hill i think his name was... :lol: :lol:
Another guy I know is obsessed with women's arses and can be really vulgar sometimes.
I actually find this talk a bit offensive, especially when he comes out with such perverted gems as "I'd like to smash in her backdoors!" Not pleasant being in his company when he's like that...Cutefluffykitten, I envy you, I really do! :wink: I long for the opportunity to make love like that!!
Did you get my last PM by the way? Hope you weren't too put off by me talking about my friend who died in February. I really miss him some days. He hated the sight of feet and couldn't understand what I could possibly see in them. :?: But he was fascinated by science and religion and did Bible studies for some time. I like to think Jesus loved him too...Understand though that feelings of duality are really quite common. You're not nearly as strange as you think - a lot of people have this kind of relationship with something - you can just swap the variables around. In fact, I'd go so far as to say most people have something they feel this way about, they're just not in tune with it or don't experience it as intensely as you. That's why I was kind of joking around earlier - because it's not as bad as you think! You'd be amazed what goes on in people's minds - absolute insanity when you really think about it. All you've done is put it on (virtual) paper. That's why I enjoyed reading your thread and I think you're courageous in writing about it. I mean really, we're all loopy - we just don't all like to admit it. :wink: