I'm not sure what to say. Honestly it feels lately like the forum has an abundance of negativity and it's bringing me down to visit and I almost feel guilty that ionto has greatly helped me - wish there was something to say or do to help you all out. I commiserate with you, but I can't say I know what it is like as my HH was mostly hands and feet, with scalp and pits and torso activated by nerves or stress or food, but not all the time and not to the point where I felt life wasn't worth living.
It's easy for me on the outside to say don't give up - but at the same time, that doesn't make it untrue. Keep fighting and battling this condition. Every small victory helps.
There ARE lots of people out there that have similar conditions, there ARE people out there that can be potential mates and not be dissuaded by your condition. Chances are for most - it is your attitude that is turning off prospective mates as opposed to the condition you might be blaming. In fact it could be you basically putting an end to it for fear of what might happen instead of just letting things happen organically. I know it's hard to act and feel confident and secure (attractive qualities) when you're worried and hating yourself for a condition that you were simply born with. Nonetheless I'd say fight the battles you can win and control what you can control. Everybody is good at something or enjoys something. Find peace and joy in it. If you can exercise and get a wicked body. The kind you can walk around on the beach and people will be staring for all the right reasons. Eat right. Rest right. Do stuff. Lots of stuff. Do it for you. Take small strolls outside of your comfort zone. Take risks. The absolute worst case scenario you are thinking of will simply not happen - and if it does - will probably be a lot less big of a deal than you envision. People by and large - are good hearted. Worried about intimacy as your relationships advance? Try shower sex. (sorry if this is obscene) You're both already wet - and clean - and it can be a great way to explore each other intimately. There is no HH in the shower. Maybe after that you'll relax and things will get easier. If not, other than a high water bill at least you're having fun...
I think we understand that there is no "perfect cure" at the moment. Probably won't be one - at least in my lifetime - maybe in yours. But that's no reason to give up. If the scientific or medical community isn't giving a damn - then make them. Organize and mobilize - get a large number of people showing interest and you can bet corporate and political interests will take note. People with HH spend copious amounts of money trying to mitigate their circumstances. As consumers we are top notch. We do matter and we can make a difference in the bottomline.
Anyways, that's my long winded way of saying please don't sound so defeated and on the verge of something you cannot take back. Find something to live for.
Good luck.