But it's not as easy as "just do it." If it were, it'd be done. These problems I speak of are not things that can be willed away so easy.
But also, you are right. Getting out there is the only way. Will this circle of knowing what needs to be done but unable to do it ever end?
Yep. It will. Control the thoughts, man. Know what you know then stand up without any further thought and do it.
My AvPD guide told me a long time ago. Don't think so much. I now know I must just do in certain situations. Making a phone call, pick up the phone and dial and don't think about dialing. Just do it. Don't think about what to say. That will come.
Life is hurt. Go get hurt.
When you bug the cat and get scratched, you learn a different way to bug the cat without getting scratched the next time.
Go ice skating and fall hard. Next time you know to lean forward a bit more to keep balance in check.
You speak with a bunch of people and say something not so wise and seen as silly, dumb. Ok. yeah. Go back with the group the next time and try again. Learn what makes them tick. Listen to them. Maybe the group really likes guns. Might be an area you could take up and learn about.
Get out and travel. Find ways to make difficulties happen. Go get hurt. Then you'll have stories to tell your friends.
Example, I lost my hearing for half a day when my ear plug fell out and someone fired a .333 rifle I think. Nothing like hearing static when people talk.