TooShyShy
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Hello All-
Ok...hopefully i can get some input on why my shy guy at work can have 2 or 3 reeeeeeally good days with me at work; relaxed (for him) and smiling at me, making alot of eye contact, going out of his way for me when i need something, trying to be around me constantly, walking by me when i am talking to someone over and over again just to say hello, etc.
BUT then after those few days go by and i am starting to feel he really is getting comfortable and there is real hope AND i see he is trying so hard to be near me and show me (in his way) he likes me THEN he starts to shut down completely; can't be around me, hides in his office for hours, can't make eye contact, won't connect with me at all, etc. its like we have to start all over again every few days!!!!! WHY??????
WHAT IS THIS AND WHY CAN'T HE BE COMFORATABLE LONGER THAN 2 OR 3 DAYS IN A ROW?????
I WAS SO HOPEFUL A FEW WEEKS AGO BCUZ HE WAS REALLY PUTTING HIMSELF OUT THERE TO SHOW ME AND BE AROUND ME, THEN HE STOPPED AND GOT VERY WITHDRAWN.
AND NOW THESE LAST FEW DAYS (ESPECIALLY TODAY) HE COULDN'T BE AROUND ME ENOUGH...HE'S BEEN GOING OUT OF HIS WAY THESE LAST TWO DAYS TO BE NEAR ME. WE MADE EYE CONTACT AND SMILED AT ONE ANOTHER A FEW TIMES AND HE KEPT COMING AROUND ME..ALL SMILES, HAPPY AND RELAXED!!!!!!
HE TENDS TO GET SUPER NERVOUS IF I MAKE SOME SWEET GESTURE TOWARDS HIM; BAKING COOKIES, GIVING HIM A CARD, ASKING HIM FOR HIS EMAIL, COMPLIMENT HIM ON HIS SENSE OF HUMORE..OR SOMETHING FUNNY HE DID, ETC. HE GETS SO FREAKED OUT FOR A DAY OR SO AND THEN AFTER THAT HE'S BACK AND TRYING TO GET MY ATTENTION AND DOING ALL THE THINGS HE DOES TO SHOW ME HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO GIVE UP ON HIM---THIS IS HOW I AM READING THE SIGNALS---WHY GET SO SCARED AND HIDE WHEN I DO SOMETHING TO SHOW HIM I CARE AND THEN THE NEXT DAY BE AROUND ME SO MUCH?????
I just don't want to keep getting my hopes up and then ALL OF A SUDDEN feel like i got punched in the stomach.
I just wish i knew how to get him out of these up and down emotional cycles???
I am still holding on to my Valentines card i picked out for him...what do i do????
Thanks
Ok...hopefully i can get some input on why my shy guy at work can have 2 or 3 reeeeeeally good days with me at work; relaxed (for him) and smiling at me, making alot of eye contact, going out of his way for me when i need something, trying to be around me constantly, walking by me when i am talking to someone over and over again just to say hello, etc.
BUT then after those few days go by and i am starting to feel he really is getting comfortable and there is real hope AND i see he is trying so hard to be near me and show me (in his way) he likes me THEN he starts to shut down completely; can't be around me, hides in his office for hours, can't make eye contact, won't connect with me at all, etc. its like we have to start all over again every few days!!!!! WHY??????
WHAT IS THIS AND WHY CAN'T HE BE COMFORATABLE LONGER THAN 2 OR 3 DAYS IN A ROW?????
I WAS SO HOPEFUL A FEW WEEKS AGO BCUZ HE WAS REALLY PUTTING HIMSELF OUT THERE TO SHOW ME AND BE AROUND ME, THEN HE STOPPED AND GOT VERY WITHDRAWN.
AND NOW THESE LAST FEW DAYS (ESPECIALLY TODAY) HE COULDN'T BE AROUND ME ENOUGH...HE'S BEEN GOING OUT OF HIS WAY THESE LAST TWO DAYS TO BE NEAR ME. WE MADE EYE CONTACT AND SMILED AT ONE ANOTHER A FEW TIMES AND HE KEPT COMING AROUND ME..ALL SMILES, HAPPY AND RELAXED!!!!!!
HE TENDS TO GET SUPER NERVOUS IF I MAKE SOME SWEET GESTURE TOWARDS HIM; BAKING COOKIES, GIVING HIM A CARD, ASKING HIM FOR HIS EMAIL, COMPLIMENT HIM ON HIS SENSE OF HUMORE..OR SOMETHING FUNNY HE DID, ETC. HE GETS SO FREAKED OUT FOR A DAY OR SO AND THEN AFTER THAT HE'S BACK AND TRYING TO GET MY ATTENTION AND DOING ALL THE THINGS HE DOES TO SHOW ME HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO GIVE UP ON HIM---THIS IS HOW I AM READING THE SIGNALS---WHY GET SO SCARED AND HIDE WHEN I DO SOMETHING TO SHOW HIM I CARE AND THEN THE NEXT DAY BE AROUND ME SO MUCH?????
I just don't want to keep getting my hopes up and then ALL OF A SUDDEN feel like i got punched in the stomach.
I just wish i knew how to get him out of these up and down emotional cycles???
I am still holding on to my Valentines card i picked out for him...what do i do????
Thanks
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