Hi aligurl09
IN WHICH SITUATIONS IS YOUR SA THE WORST?
It is quite variable, I'm not shy and am happy to do things like public speaking. The problem is the interaction, and specifically social interaction, I do ok in a work situation if people only talk about work and don't ask me something like how was your weekend? The most dominating fear for me is the fear of blushing, there are little trigger situations and suddenly I'll feel myself start blushing and I will fall apart (or I was until I started treatment). I have problems with single men, I am really anxious about how I should behave to give the appropriate signals. I am afraid of giving and receiving invitations.
I have specific SA but there are now so many specific situations that it is a constant major problem.
HAS IT EVER GOTTEN SO BAD THAT YOU EXPERIENCED AVOIDANCE BEHAVIOR?
I have tried exposing myself to anxiety causing situations and it never helped. I do a lot of avoidance from minor avoidance like carefully monitoring what I say, to avoiding eye contact to just not going some places or talking to some people. Or I did. I'm getting better now.
WHEN DID YOU REALIZE THAT SA WAS CONTROLLING YOUR LIFE?
I knew that something was causing me problems for a long time. But I realised that I had this particular treatable problem with a name (ie social phobia) only a couple of months ago.
HAVE YOU GOTTEN ANY HELP FOR IT AND IF YOU HAVE.. WHAT DID YOU DO?
I went to my doctor and said "I have a problem with blushing" and explained the basic issue to her (I had no idea about social anxiety, I just knew that blushing was a problem). She said "I think cognitive behavioural therapy might help you" and refered me to a psychologist.
Also I had been sent a link to a book on blushing and when I went to Amazon to order it another book came up on the "people who bought this book also bought X" list. It was about social anxiety and shyness and treatment with CBT. When I bought this book I didn't think I had a problem with social anxiety, and I knew I wasn't shy. I just thought it would be good to find out about CBT.
When the book arrived I read it from cover to cover and thought, ooooookay, it is relevant to me. I'm a bloody classic case.
Link to the book:
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/A...79/sr=2-1/ref=pd_ka_b_2_1/102-6631545-2756927
In case the link doesn't work - look up the author Gillian Butler on Amazon and that will get you to the book.
Now I am working through the book and seeing the psychologist (about every fortnight at the moment).
As far as medication goes, I have been on anti-depressant medication for years and it also helps the anxiety a little, but not that much. Certainly medication alone has not been the answer for me.
Hope this is useful.