Help! I am a fairly assertive, confident woman in my 40's. Yet I am like a 12 yr old girl around men I am interested in or show interest in me. So I do understand shyness. My problem is with my best friend of 5 years. He is 44 and has been single for about 20 yrs. Since his dad died & he ran the farm along with a full time job. We are together all the time, over the years he has relaxed more around me. People we work with have asked him outright if he is gay, so last year he started saying he is asexual. I believe he is love-shy, has very low body image & thinks that a woman would only want him for his money. I am so in love with him, he is in fact the best man I have ever known. The one I have been waiting for my entire life. He does let me touch him without flinching anymore. He points out every time we go out men that are looking at me like "that". Men have lusted for me my entire adult life, I know the look the want only to possess & consume me. When he looks at me he sees "me". We share morals, values, goals, interests & many laughs. I too lived a celibate life for 11 years, my "can't touch me, can't hurt me" theory. The problem was I was lonely for an intimate connection. When we talk of such things he laughs & says "you? You could have any man you want! How do you not see that?". Ugh ~ how is it that he cannot see he is the man I want? I tease & flirt with him & he blushes. If I don't just say the words I fear I will regret it until my dying day. Yet, if I do & he freaks, I loose my dear friend forever. We are going away for 1 week & need to decide one way or another. Please help me out. Lost in the madness.