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I was wondering if you guys could help me out a little with my rational statements(for CBT). As i am doing CBT, i am realizing more and more irrational thoughts and beliefs i have about myself and the situatioins i am in. But, some situations, i just cannot rationalize myself, and i would really appreciate it if you guys could help me out a little, by sharing some ways you would rationalize these thoughts and beliefs of mine. All ideas are welcome:
For example, my therapist recently told me this one. I complained to him that i feel like when i am in a good mood, people hate me, and i am not supposed to feel like this, because everyone thinks i am just a big jerk and douche bag. He simply told me, "where is the evidence that anyone is thinking that about you?"
So, just something simple like that rational statement goes a long way in helping me rationalize my irrational
beliefs about myself. Okay, so here are some of my irrational beliefs/ thoughts that i am looking for help with:
1. (me thinking to myself)"That pause in the phone conversation was MY fault, this person is going to hang up now, and think i am a complete awkward loser who is too selfish to talk on the phone. Any pause in conversation will make this person completely hate you and never talk to you again."(This is basically the same thought process i have when talking with someone in any situation, just worse on the phone)
2. (me thinking to myself)"I am not allowed to look this person in the eye. Since i feel a little uncomfortable doing it, this person MUST realize my discomfort, and hate me for it. They will tell me i am weird, and never talk to me again."
Any help is greatly appreciated
Thanks!
For example, my therapist recently told me this one. I complained to him that i feel like when i am in a good mood, people hate me, and i am not supposed to feel like this, because everyone thinks i am just a big jerk and douche bag. He simply told me, "where is the evidence that anyone is thinking that about you?"
So, just something simple like that rational statement goes a long way in helping me rationalize my irrational
beliefs about myself. Okay, so here are some of my irrational beliefs/ thoughts that i am looking for help with:
1. (me thinking to myself)"That pause in the phone conversation was MY fault, this person is going to hang up now, and think i am a complete awkward loser who is too selfish to talk on the phone. Any pause in conversation will make this person completely hate you and never talk to you again."(This is basically the same thought process i have when talking with someone in any situation, just worse on the phone)
2. (me thinking to myself)"I am not allowed to look this person in the eye. Since i feel a little uncomfortable doing it, this person MUST realize my discomfort, and hate me for it. They will tell me i am weird, and never talk to me again."
Any help is greatly appreciated
Thanks!