I've been quiet for as a long as I remember myself(I'm 20).I didn’t really care about it before because I had best friends who accepted me for who I am. However, after I left my friends and moved to another country I realized that I can’t build friendships with people. I go to college and I never can make decent conversation with anyone, I barely ever talk. I know it’s strange but I know how to smile, I know how to keep eye contact, be friendly, confident, and curious. When I try to talk to someone I ask open-ended questions but they never lead to conversation. I just can’t open up anyone and I never really open up myself. I don’t even talk much to my relatives and parents. I always read news, books, magazines,watch movies but it still doesn't help me to open up. I even tried different clubs but I always quit because I can’t connect with anyone there. I know people who only play games and don’t read at all but even they seem to be much more socialized than I am.I feel so lonely right now.
I think problem is with processing information in our brains and with the way we think. For example, I have always less to say than talkative person even If I went through the same experiences with that person. Whether it's movie, trips, parties, college classes, teachers I always have limited thoughts, thus my conversation is rather dull. I believe that it can be changed and we can improve our abilities to talk, we just need learn to think the way talkative people do. However, I currently don't know how talkative people process information which is why I'm asking you for help.
I think problem is with processing information in our brains and with the way we think. For example, I have always less to say than talkative person even If I went through the same experiences with that person. Whether it's movie, trips, parties, college classes, teachers I always have limited thoughts, thus my conversation is rather dull. I believe that it can be changed and we can improve our abilities to talk, we just need learn to think the way talkative people do. However, I currently don't know how talkative people process information which is why I'm asking you for help.