How important is sex to you?

[proudmummy]

You don't have to have deep conversation with people to sleep with them, believe me. Its so easy out there!!

I don't know why my partner persisted to try and get with me, where i'm so dull and don't conversate much, but he did and my SP got 10x worse after about a year of being with him.

 

[Argamemnon]

You don't have to have deep conversation with people to sleep with them, believe me. Its so easy out there!!

Although I totally respect your opinion, I have to disagree. It's far from easy for people who suffer from severe social anxiety. These people can only relax when they are alone, and often avoid people altogether. Believe me, not in a million years could I ask a girl out, or have sex with her. Absolutely impossible.

 

[proudmummy]

You don't have to have deep conversation with people to sleep with them, believe me. Its so easy out there!!

Although I totally respect your opinion, I have to disagree. It's far from easy for people who suffer from severe social anxiety. These people can only relax when they are alone, and often avoid people altogether. Believe me, not in a million years could I ask a girl out, or have sex with her. Absolutely impossible.

Come to think of it, I did have alcohol in my system when I slept with people, not that I conversated much with them then either!! lol... :?

 

[Day_Tripper]

You don't have to have deep conversation with people to sleep with them, believe me. Its so easy out there!!

I don't know why my partner persisted to try and get with me, where i'm so dull and don't conversate much, but he did and my SP got 10x worse after about a year of being with him.

Well I'm sure it's 10 times easier if you're a girl, especially if you're good looking. But if you're a guy, it's much harder, since it almost completely revolves around your personality.

 

[AdamWest]

Wow, I don't see how people here who aren't comfortable talking to strangers managed to be comfortable enough to be in an intimate relationship. Can someone tell me how that works?

Depends on the situation I guess, for me, it's more being put in a situation where it's not really right, but there other person is leading the way, even after a several years, weekend only relationship, I was never really comfortable all the time with sex, but not necessarilly uncomfortable all the time. Sex did seem to being another level of being open around someone.

Sex is just a part of it though, I still had social disorders, and insecurity, and depression, and were just in it part because I thought I couldn't do any better, but still knowing I couldn't do it forever, it sounds terrible, but it's complicated.

It's been 5+ years now without it though, and sex doesn't matter as much as it seemed to before I never had it. More than sex it's everything else I miss, someone to put your arms around. But eh, I really should get my life together, I said in the other thread, things compound to make everything worse.

I don't know.

 

[Argamemnon]

It's been 5+ years now without it though, and sex doesn't matter as much as it seemed to before I never had it.

Do you think you would suffer more, if you had never experienced sex and intimacy?

 

[Godiva]

All of this pessimism sounds a lil like the grapes are sour syndrome. Sex is not meaningless because the two people are not married. It can be fun and fulfilling and to mention an anxiety relief for that moment. If one chooses to wait until marriage or prefer not to have sex unless in a committed relationship.. that is fine and a choice that is personal and comfortable for you. However everyone does not feel the same and the sex that they enjoy should not be considered meaningless. Sex is beautiful and when done in a comfortable environment with someone you trust... it can be like you are in a world where only the two of you exist. I would recommend to all the virgins to make sure it is with someone who RESPECTS you.. not on a drunk night with a complete stranger. Someone who values and appreciates your existence. Sex helps with depression and is a great beneficial work out. Just like everything else in life.. it has to be done right with the right person. Have safe sex and choose the RIGHT partner. Bless.. Godiva 8)

 

[Kien]

I have never seen sex as something romantic and lovey. I see it as a pleasure for the individual for which your need a woman.

 

[recluse]

I have lost all desire which is mostly a good thing for me.

 

[Kien]

I have lost all desire which is mostly a good thing for me.

You don't even feel any desire to look at women bodies? I don't long much for sex or watch porn, howeverI often take some look at nude models.

 

[Argamemnon]

I wonder how unhealthy it is to never ever experience sex. I hope I'm not inflicting some sort of "permanent psychological damage" on myself. My social anxiety and depression are more than enough to deal with already!

Anyone have an opinion on this? :?

 

[Kien]

I have been wondering about that a little as well. Since they say everywhere that the sex life in a relationship is so important and that there are things like sexual frustration. :?

 

[Argamemnon]

It would also be nice if people who have partners expressed their opinion. Can you imagine never ever experiencing sex?

 

[Carstuar]

Having experienced sex, I can do fine without it.
Hell, I actually get the same satisfaction from masturbation.
It's the intimacy part I miss.

 

[Argamemnon]

I keep telling myself that I should at least visit a prostitute once before I die, but apparently I don't want it, since I feel like shit.

 

[rain_]

I'm 27, female and a virgin.

Sex seems a little overrated. Of course, I'd like to experience it, but I have no interest in meaningless flings or one-night stands. What I desire most is to experience it with someone I care for and who feels the same. I think having a connection with the person makes the act all the much sweeter (and hot).

So, I suppose I am more interested in the intimacy two people share.

 

[oxygene]

I keep telling myself that I should at least visit a prostitute once before I die, but apparently I don't want it, since I feel like shit.

why don`t you try those quick hook up sites online? I`ve had my first sex through one of them. It was crap, but nothing can be worse than having sex with a prostitute.

 

[Argamemnon]

oxygene i hope you don't mind, if I send you a pm.

 

[Edith]

I actually lost my virginity a few days ago... it was kind of an accident. I was spending the night at a friends house helping him pack because he was moving. He is in love with me, but I don't feel the same way and am always turning him down. Anyway, we finished packing and then had some drinks and went to sleep... but we are both insomniacs and after a while of not sleeping he started touching me and stuff and it just felt right.... and then oops, there went my virginity.

I guess I never realised how amazing it actually feels to have someone who cares about you touching you and loving you, I think its a feeling and a whole aspect of human life and interaction that I've been ignoring and pushing aside. The fact that I slept like a baby for the next 12 hours made me realise how sexually frustrated I've been... pent up sexual energy needs to be released... and doing it yourself stops cutting it after a while.

People NEED sex... I need sex, it feels good, its natural and it not wrong.

In short: Sex is good, sex is natural, I don't (and don't think I could) have it with just anyone, but that doesn't mean that I don't want it... like ALL the time. I need a way to have it that suits my personality and my lifestyle... EVERYONE has different sexual needs - but the point is we all have them.

Never be embarrassed by sex.

 

[rado31]

I have lost all desire which is mostly a good thing for me.

Truth. I know that you will drop rotten tomatoe on me but i regret why i m still not virgin.

I M MORE MORE MESSED after i tried sex like several times in my life.
And, then escaped , of course.

Yes, i was seeking , aching for love... and when i was desperate i compromised myself.

Yes, it would be good that i m still a virgin , with my 33, life was fun before. I mean this seriously.