dandriv25
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Starting threads. I'm not really used to this.
Lately I've been feeling pretty good. I'm attempting to get into uni, I'm looking at getting a vocational change that'll give me more money, I've paid off my car, I'm as good at the drums as I've ever been, and things are generally looking up.
However, my biggest crisis at the moment is loneliness. It festers every day, either subtly or overtly, and looms as my biggest emotional challenge today. Some days I'm crippled by this emotional weight. It literally feels like an anvil pushing on my heart and it's an awful feeling - I'm sure some people here know that feeling. :sad:
Does anyone have any tips to beat this? I have to accept that feeling lonely is something I'll have to get used to - I can't force girls to date me - so what are some healthy ways to cope? Surely there's something I can do to make it not hurt so much. It's pretty much the only thing that depresses me enough to notice, and it's instantaneous. Even looking at couples at the mall can trigger it.
I do crave female affection, though. I love hugs and being touched and neither of those things are happening.
I feel the same way. I sometimes get really down at the fact that I've never had a relationship with a girl on any level and probably never will.
My insecurities and lack of confidence have made it impossible to connect with anyone. My only experiences with girls have been negative. Being called fat and ugly and told that no-one would go out with me never helped either.
Seeing other men being so confident really makes me feel bad. I think Irish women are excessively shallow though. Girls from other nationalities seem a lot friendlier and less demanding.
I find company with my hobbies. They'll never hurt me.
Focus on university and education. You have a job, which is good. You've a good chance of meeting someone.