Not to be rude ,but, you are so not obligated to endure something that is causing you anxiety. I know that you love your boyfreind or you would nt be here,but, you have to also realize that this could be the way he is going to be his entire life. Can you handle that? I can so relate to his feelings as well and know that its very difficult. I think you must have an active program to help ease his tension. Break him in slowly. Maybe once a week you get him to commit to one outing,,maybe a picnic where there are nt alot of people,maybe a walk where the crowd is not too intense,etc..and make it very gradual. Work together out of love and respect for eachother and if he cares as much as you do he will comply. Eventually he can meet your parents. Maybe you could explain to them and they too could send a nice note to both of you,a voice mail,etc..again all done gradually. Its a process but whatever techniques you use [mine were examples] are bound to ease his tension in some area. Again ,if all else fails are you willing to live like this ? It sounds mean ,and, that is so not my intention,but, i think we should never allow someone elses sickness,problems,etc hold us back or make us suffer mentally. I think we have to love ourselves that much or we can never truly help anyone else. Good luck to you, I know its hard.