Anonymous
Well-known member
It's a little surreal for me toactually be writing this, but here's my story.
People tell me constantly that I'm a successful person. I go to a great college, play sports, have girlfriends, get good grades, belong to a popular fraternity. I'm not looking for pats on the back here. This is what people see when they look at me.
The truth of the matter is that I have trouble enjoying what other people call success.. I'm bitterly afraid of failing to uphold the image that surrounds me. I worry about the challenges that I have to face in a way that might be unhealthy. I'll dread a soccer game, for example, until the minute before it starts. Then I'll finally make the monumental effort of pushing everyone else's expectations out of my head for just long enough to relax over the course of the game. Once the game's over, I go right back to worrying. I can't celebrate with my teammates if we win. I can't just enjoy an accomplishment. I go back and anaylze every detail, wondering how it looked.
This phonomenon extends to social circumstances as well. I constantly feel like I need to push people away in order to relax. Otherwise I worry about what they think. Sometimes I can overcome the anxiety, sometimes I can't. Sometimes I feel supremely confident and relaxed, and other times I feel worried and almost feeble. During the "down" times, I know that I'm acting irrationally, but I can't stop it.
I don't know if I have social phobia or not. I've asked people about this, but they don't take it seriously coming from a person like me. Do I worry unhealthily, or is this complex just part of my personality that I need to deal with ? Anyone have any thoughts ?
People tell me constantly that I'm a successful person. I go to a great college, play sports, have girlfriends, get good grades, belong to a popular fraternity. I'm not looking for pats on the back here. This is what people see when they look at me.
The truth of the matter is that I have trouble enjoying what other people call success.. I'm bitterly afraid of failing to uphold the image that surrounds me. I worry about the challenges that I have to face in a way that might be unhealthy. I'll dread a soccer game, for example, until the minute before it starts. Then I'll finally make the monumental effort of pushing everyone else's expectations out of my head for just long enough to relax over the course of the game. Once the game's over, I go right back to worrying. I can't celebrate with my teammates if we win. I can't just enjoy an accomplishment. I go back and anaylze every detail, wondering how it looked.
This phonomenon extends to social circumstances as well. I constantly feel like I need to push people away in order to relax. Otherwise I worry about what they think. Sometimes I can overcome the anxiety, sometimes I can't. Sometimes I feel supremely confident and relaxed, and other times I feel worried and almost feeble. During the "down" times, I know that I'm acting irrationally, but I can't stop it.
I don't know if I have social phobia or not. I've asked people about this, but they don't take it seriously coming from a person like me. Do I worry unhealthily, or is this complex just part of my personality that I need to deal with ? Anyone have any thoughts ?