I don't need love or sex

[recluse]

I sometimes loose so much hope i fool myself into thinking that i don't need a woman...But the reality is i want to experience being in a loving relationship, and sex. I want to experience sex within a loving and trusting relationship so perhaps it's good that i am still a virgin at 27. A lot of guys i know of are/used to be promiscuous and had a lot of one night stands, but that seems so dirty and cheap to me, and the thought of using prostitutes just screams desperation, and the fact that you pay the person is just so clinical. So yes a loving trusting relationship is what i crave.

I also avoid the temptation of looking at porn because it makes me more frustrated, and it gives a distorted image of how sex is supposed to be in the real worl.d

 

[Kien]

I also avoid the temptation of looking at porn because it makes me more frustrated, and it gives a distorted image of how sex is supposed to be in the real worl.d

You can still look at solo woman bodies. But yeah women that are good enough doesn't grow on trees.

 

[recluse]

Well porn gives a view that women are dumb sex objects and that's the part of it i hate.

 

[Argamemnon]

maybe I read your post wrong.

So do you DO want connection, just not when it comes with anxiety?

Yes, I'd prefer being alone and calm rather than being with others and feeling anxious. But if I really trust people I can be open and become their best friend, and thus become a happier person.

 

[Kien]

Well porn gives a view that women are dumb sex objects and that's the part of it i hate.

Heh yeah actually it does. The poses and "come and get me"-faces does have effect.

 

[theman]

I sometimes loose so much hope i fool myself into thinking that i don't need a woman...But the reality is i want to experience being in a loving relationship, and sex. I want to experience sex within a loving and trusting relationship so perhaps it's good that i am still a virgin at 27. A lot of guys i know of are/used to be promiscuous and had a lot of one night stands, but that seems so dirty and cheap to me, and the thought of using prostitutes just screams desperation, and the fact that you pay the person is just so clinical. So yes a loving trusting relationship is what i crave.

I also avoid the temptation of looking at porn because it makes me more frustrated, and it gives a distorted image of how sex is supposed to be in the real worl.d

Recluse - you are very wise