I hate when people say things like:

Broken_Memory

Broken_Memory

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"she speaks! Oh my God!"

"I see. Guys, she speaks if you speak to her first" (Great. Like I'm that easy to just figure out. Way to simplify a person's behavior).

"What? Speak up. What? Sorry, repeat that *gets carried away and shows happiness over embarrassing somebody quiet*"

Why are people so insensitive? I find that there are a lot of people who just don't seem to understand what its like to be shy.
 
slowmotiondaydream

slowmotiondaydream

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argh i get that too!

its as if they know you have a problem and they mock you infont of people just to have that satisfaction of bullying and making fun!

grinds my gears
 
4seasons

4seasons

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I still don't understand why this annoys people. If people are saying stuff like that its not to be cruel(most of the time). Its to get you to speak. In a way they're trying to help you. These people either do know whats its like to be shy, or they just really want to get to know you or have a conversation with you(which is actually a compliment, is it not?). Whenever someone makes an effort to get me to speak up I'm greatful they're going out of their way to do so, I'm not talking to them why should they even think about talking to me? Avoiding/hating situations like this is only going to make your anxiety worse, if you want to get better you're going to have to learn to take advantage of these situations and look at these people in a different light.
 
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desperatehousewife

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Because they are rude and they assume that it is good that it is always good thing to explain your feelings and it is not important that whether SA person will be sad or not.They are just talking and as you say that they are insensitive.They do not know how to talk to a SA person, this is their fault.
Do not be sad, just never mind them...And do not be sad about this kind of "stupid" person.
 
4seasons

4seasons

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slowmotiondaydream said:
i know what you mean.. and fair enough

but im thinking more in the terms of someone you hardly know sarcastically saying it
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Yeah iIguess There's a few different kinds of these people. I guess I'm just lucky enough not have run into the kind you're talking about.
 
Psychedelicious

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It has happened to me before and it dosen't really annoy me that much. I guess it also depends on the context in which it is said though. It's kind of annoying when people are like "Do you talk? Speak! say something"! It makes me feel like I'm a dog and they're asking me to speak on command. But when it's like this, which some one actually has said to me before, "Wow you actually talk? You should really talk more often. I want to hear what you have to say" I don't mind it at all. Atleast people are maybe trying to talk to you?????
 
dpr

dpr

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I have decided that 90% of people who don't have some sort of social anxiety/phobia will constantly blurt out stupid shit that could never interest any human being.

A girl at my work the other day asked me "So what's your favorite Disney movie?"

Just out of the blue! I'm a 30 year-old man! Why she got in her head that I like Disney movies is beyond me.

Another woman once went on and on about this store that had bacon on sale and "You never find bacon for that cheap! It's a miracle!" About a full five minutes she went on about STUPID BACON!

Another co-worker once asked me if I follow hockey. I said no, but that still didn't stop him from going on and on about his favorite team, favorite players, trades that some coach made that he doesn't personally agree with.

And THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE SEEN BY SOCIETY AS NORMAL.

And I'M the weird one because I don't talk too much?

Take comfort man... at least you don't just open your mouth and let a bunch of crap just spew out.

I think the people who bug you with "Why don't you speak?" and other clever quips are just bored and want someone to talk to. Not because they're interested, but just so they can talk back and thereby hear themselves talk.[/i]
 
Zarrix

Zarrix

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dpr said:
I have decided that 90% of people who don't have some sort of social anxiety/phobia will constantly blurt out stupid shit that could never interest any human being.

A girl at my work the other day asked me "So what's your favorite Disney movie?"

Just out of the blue! I'm a 30 year-old man! Why she got in her head that I like Disney movies is beyond me.

Another woman once went on and on about this store that had bacon on sale and "You never find bacon for that cheap! It's a miracle!" About a full five minutes she went on about STUPID BACON!

Another co-worker once asked me if I follow hockey. I said no, but that still didn't stop him from going on and on about his favorite team, favorite players, trades that some coach made that he doesn't personally agree with.

And THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE SEEN BY SOCIETY AS NORMAL.

And I'M the weird one because I don't talk too much?

Take comfort man... at least you don't just open your mouth and let a bunch of crap just spew out.

I think the people who bug you with "Why don't you speak?" and other clever quips are just bored and want someone to talk to. Not because they're interested, but just so they can talk back and thereby hear themselves talk.[/i]
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How I feel EXACTLY! Sometimes at work or somewhere, ppl will say stuff I don't even give two rats about. I feel I have to respond, or else I will be seen as snobbish, quiet or anything like that. So I just say 'yeah' or something like that. The ppl on this website actually say things I care about, a first I must say. However, as human beings, we like and dislike different things, but a common trait in most is the ambition to socialise, something we can't do easily unfortuantely.
 
proudmummy

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I hate it when they say "she talks" whatever then ASK you why your so quiet. I'm hardly going to start telling them about SP, that'd make me seem even more freaky. I usually reply that I'm ill or something. What a liar I am!!
 
Siren

Siren

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dpr said:
I have decided that 90% of people who don't have some sort of social anxiety/phobia will constantly blurt out stupid shit that could never interest any human being.

A girl at my work the other day asked me "So what's your favorite Disney movie?"

Just out of the blue! I'm a 30 year-old man! Why she got in her head that I like Disney movies is beyond me.

Another woman once went on and on about this store that had bacon on sale and "You never find bacon for that cheap! It's a miracle!" About a full five minutes she went on about STUPID BACON!

Another co-worker once asked me if I follow hockey. I said no, but that still didn't stop him from going on and on about his favorite team, favorite players, trades that some coach made that he doesn't personally agree with.

And THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE SEEN BY SOCIETY AS NORMAL.

And I'M the weird one because I don't talk too much?

Take comfort man... at least you don't just open your mouth and let a bunch of crap just spew out.

I think the people who bug you with "Why don't you speak?" and other clever quips are just bored and want someone to talk to. Not because they're interested, but just so they can talk back and thereby hear themselves talk.[/i]
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So true, so true. At least we THINK before we speak; so when we do, we say something worth hearing.

People talk way too much.
 
_Brittany_

_Brittany_

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ugh me too!!!




:roll:

it's not like they care about what we have to say (well from my experiences anyway).
 
Volcano

Volcano

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They say these things because they have some kind of weird brain damage. You can start to act like that yourself if you drink vast quantities of alcohol and knock out most of your brain.
 
alwaysthinking

alwaysthinking

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"She Speaks"

Is a rude and unwanted observation. I believe it is fairly "normal" in society for people to ostracize anyone that is different. So if you don't like to drone on endlessly about anything that comes to mind you will be considered different.
 
wooaah

wooaah

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Ugh "He talks!"

my only response to that is exactly whats going through my mind.

"uuuuh... ok...."
 
recluse

recluse

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dpr said:
I have decided that 90% of people who don't have some sort of social anxiety/phobia will constantly blurt out stupid shit that could never interest any human being.

A girl at my work the other day asked me "So what's your favorite Disney movie?"

Just out of the blue! I'm a 30 year-old man! Why she got in her head that I like Disney movies is beyond me.

Another woman once went on and on about this store that had bacon on sale and "You never find bacon for that cheap! It's a miracle!" About a full five minutes she went on about STUPID BACON!

Another co-worker once asked me if I follow hockey. I said no, but that still didn't stop him from going on and on about his favorite team, favorite players, trades that some coach made that he doesn't personally agree with.

And THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE SEEN BY SOCIETY AS NORMAL.

And I'M the weird one because I don't talk too much?

Take comfort man... at least you don't just open your mouth and let a bunch of crap just spew out.

I think the people who bug you with "Why don't you speak?" and other clever quips are just bored and want someone to talk to. Not because they're interested, but just so they can talk back and thereby hear themselves talk.[/i]
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I agree with you! 90% of the shit that comes out of my workmates and other peoples mouths is irrelevant. I am guilty of doing it myself at times when i feel really uneasy because of uncomfortable silences, but i usually think hard what i am going to say and usually i think to myself ''Nah! Better not cos it sounds stupid!''

A few years ago a female friend of mine was driving and it was quite a long drive, and she got annoyed and said ''say something! Say a joke o'r something!''...But the truth is most of the time my mind is a jumble of thoughts and i can't think of anything to say, so can i help that?!
 
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