Anonymous
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I have many things that I would like to just write about in this message because I feel that I need to have them out there to help me feel better. Here it goes. I am 19 years old, male, and am a sophmore at college. As I look back on my life I realized that I suffered from anxiety and social phobia pretty much my entire life. In the past 2 or 3 years is when it has gotten really bad. I have a really difficult time talking to people in any kind of setting. I get nervous in class, 1 on 1 speaking, group speaking, you name it I will feel the anxiety and panic coming on. I have talked to my parents about this and they have been very helpful. I found out my dad suffered from some anxiety problems himself so he has been a very been help for me. The one thing I do feel blessed about is how I have such a loving family. I couldn't ask for anything else in terms of my family. Anyway, my social phobia and anxiety has competly crippled me and I avoid doing a lot of things because of it. Taking certain classes, going to certain places to eat or shop, talking to certain people, etc. Some people I can talk to fine, but others I am strucken with absolute fear. I managed to put together some decent grades in my first year of college, avoiding making any presentations though. I do not have a lot of friends which really makes me sad. I used to have tons of friends as I grew up. All of sudden people just starting growing apart from me and I was left with not too many. That is not to say that a lot of people don't say "Hi" to me or know who I am, but I just don't have those close friends. I would say back home away from college I have 2 maybe 3 people that will call me. Mainly 1 person will call me. We are growing apart now though because he got a job and met a girl there and some other people that he is friends with now so we are losing touch. At school it is kind of the same deal. I am have roommate who is nice, but has a girlfriend that he is with 24/7 so I really don't hang out with him much. I don't care for his girlfiend that much either. I have some people that call me, but not many. I have to call people many times just to get invited anywhere. I do not like to do that because it makes me feel pathetic. I have a lot of trouble just meeting different people. I do not just go up to people at parties and start talking to them and asking them if they want to "hang"some time. I am writing this tonight because I was not invited out again to hang out and it really makes me feel hurt. I have hurt other people in the past by making fun of them, teasing them, excluding them, and I feel so horrible about it. If I could go back and do it again I would do everything so much differently. I think I treated some people very poorly and it hurts me to think that I did that. I do not like the school I am at now because I think it is very overpriced and I have really no friends/girlfriend or social life. I am looking to transfer, but I am not sure if it is that right decision. I do not know if I want to transfer for any good reasons. I feel I am wasting my fathers money and I am letting him down. My parents helped me put together the apartment I am in and I would horrible if I told them that I am going to transfer now after this year. I know they would understand, but I would still feel bad. They want me to do whatever makes me happy, but I think no matter where I am or what I do I am going to be unhappy unless I make changes. Maybe I should transfer, but it should be when I clear minded and thinking straight. Not because I got excluded from going out again so now I need to transfer. I have a bad problem with motivation too. I have tried a ton of anxiety/social phobia cures and can't stick to any of them. I just ordered the Linden Method and am trying to stay with it, but I keep procrastinating and putting it off. I am very confused about life. I am constantly trying to be just like someone else. It makes me feel good for a short period of time copying the way someone else is as I precieve them. For example, I have tried to copy everyone from my brother to a coach I had. I want to be someone else for some reason. The only thing I truly know is that I am not content with my life or where it is going. I am lost and feel helpless. May God be with us.
Well for anyone that actually read this looooong message in its entirety, I greatly appreciate it! Even if you don't respond to it I just needed to get what and how I was feeling out there for people to read. Thank you for your time.
J.A.
Well for anyone that actually read this looooong message in its entirety, I greatly appreciate it! Even if you don't respond to it I just needed to get what and how I was feeling out there for people to read. Thank you for your time.
J.A.