I suffer a lot at work

[ato]

HI

I dont know if I am a Social phobic but sometimes i feel very depressed and dont like people, specially people that i dont know and I am forced to spend most of my time with, i.e: my work...
I got a new job since January which I have to keep only because i need the money, however there are thousands of reasons that actually makes me think I should quit, but i am not sure if i will find the right place for me after all.
Being new is one of the reasons for I dont like my new job, this is a terrible thing for me. My work mates are a very close group in which i believe i dont fit in. They get along very well, but we are so different ! I dont talk loud and they do, they are all men and like to see naked woman talk about sports and stuff which I dont appreciate. many times i fell like i have to act to survive, but I am such a bad actor ! I prefer to stay alone most of the time and avoid meetings and reunions.

I am overquilyfied for this position which makes me feel humilliated since I am a proffessional and i have to work as a drafter. The reason is I couldnt find a better position because of the labor market so I'd rather being a drafter than unemployed. They know this at work and they have made me a rise but God i feel so burned Out

I may talk about my background as a Social phobic, but i am not sure when did i begin or I may have been just a Shy person. I lost my father when i was a little kid and always being alone during my entire life (33y/old). I think i have become more social phobic among the years. I have always been a lonely person. I have never maintained a long relationship with anyone, when I find friends I lost them because I am unable to understand them
This is a terrible situation i would like to change and believe me I am working hard on it, but i cant see a progress. I have gone to a Psiq. had pills, but I haven't got well yet. My family doesnt know this and I have no friends, I have no one to talk about this issue because I am isolated. Meanwhile I suffer in silence...

 

[BrownEyes]

I know exactly what you mean. I feel depressed at work too. I also feel I am overqualified at my work but my SA prevents me from seeking and acquiring better jobs. The truth is I'm scared to death of interviews. I was lucky enough to get this job...

 

[Lisa]

I hate my job. If money didnt make the world go round I would have quit a long time ago.

 

[maggie]

BrownEyes....i also feel very overqualified in my job, but i do nothing about it, cause interviews and asking for employment are really hard things for me to do...frustrating :evil:

 

[marc72]

I feel the same way.....

i feel the same way like you all. You will find many people agreeing with you. I myself is overqualified for my part time stock job at a retail store and I lie to my coworkers to tell them I am 23 and I do not have a college when In fact i do have a degree and I am 33,. I do not want people asking me "Why are are you working at this position?" I would hate that and be embarrased.

Anyway, have you tried seeing a Weekly therapist? Also in this forum you will find other peoples bad work experiences like Brown Eyes as well as good advice given from people here.

 

[marmie]

Hi everyone, I'm new to this site and it's really good to know that I'm not alone. I feel exactly the same way about work. I am also overqualified for my job. it's a struggle to go in every day - everyone else in my office is very extrovert and they think I'm really odd as I can't think of a thing to say to them. Plus it's got to the point now where I dread the phone going as I seem to forget how to speak half the time!

 

[lifesnotfair]

me too.. sometimes i really lose it at work to the point i have to go home or else i would REALLY lose it

 

[nerdgirl178]

So glad I am not alone. I was way overqualified for my job seriously I am very smart. I am 23 and in college and I would love to do things like work in art and museums (Art history major ) but I am so scared to even apply, even for an intersnhip! I know I can do better with my life. But I am stuck here working in boring retail store making little money!

 

[marc72]

amazing

people this is astonishing to me. I remember going to group therapy and hearing peoples story but not as intense as thi. I really truly feel like we are not alone and that work related problems(my number one isssue) is so true and sad for us all. I am quite amazed by similar stories of us writing about this topic. This topic touches me so deeply. keep fighting keep pushing and look for alternatives. I often look forall these careers I otherwise I never knew before. So much to explore, but we are not lazy like some people might think.

 

[maggie]

i agree with you marc72...and think also that, even though I am in a go-nowhere job, and am overqualified, I force myself to get up and go to work, even though some days it is horrible...not so much the job, but the anxiety I feel walking in the door, dealing with people, and then leaving....but at least we make an honest effort and go to work

 

[IcanDoIt]

yeah, there was a time during my company attachment when i really lost it that i had to fake a sickness to go back home..

i mean it felt real bad to see people joke with one another having coffee breaks without asking u along, and people asking u "y u look so sad?"

felt like bursting, thus i went home..

then depressed etc, thought of dying and stuff..