Azumel
Member
Hi, I'm new and I'm not entirely sure if I have AvPD.
Some days I'll wake up with lots of motivation (though by the time I get to class I've usually started analysing and I can't think properly).
I talk to people only if I know them if not I have to wait for them to talk to me and avoid them. Usually I find that other people don't make much effort since most of them already have friends and thus don't need me.
There used to be a time when I'd avoid any situation involving too many people, and most situations where there would be more than one person who I didn't know. I still do on and off. I have a couple of friends and even when they invite me out I still have a tendency to say no ( I used to be fairly popular when I was 17 and I lost a lot of friends this way) so I spend most of my time indoors trying to distract myself from anxious thoughts.
I know it's the worst idea to avoid these situations because I crave socialising but it's just easier. I think I can deal with rejection alright, I'm used to it, but I seem to think that if I get too close to someone I'll let them down by not having enough experience one way or another. I seem to just totally seize up and speak really quietly when someone new speaks to me and I'm constantly worrying for the first week or two what it could be that they want to take from me.
Also where money is concerned or I'm booking holidays I let things slide, avoid paying bills and rent sometimes and I have no reason to be doing it I just worry.
If I feel like a friend is ignoring me (which can either be true or not) I start to have panic attacks. I get scared of being alone for good and yet I seem to be ensuring that I will be.
like I say I'm not sure If I have AvPD because it seems to be on and off. One moment I'll be ok nothing but minor worries I can handle, then the next I'm having a panic attack. It started when I was 18, I think I've got better now I'm 22 and I've decided to fight, although it's not going entirely well at the moment.
Thanks for taking the time to read
Some days I'll wake up with lots of motivation (though by the time I get to class I've usually started analysing and I can't think properly).
I talk to people only if I know them if not I have to wait for them to talk to me and avoid them. Usually I find that other people don't make much effort since most of them already have friends and thus don't need me.
There used to be a time when I'd avoid any situation involving too many people, and most situations where there would be more than one person who I didn't know. I still do on and off. I have a couple of friends and even when they invite me out I still have a tendency to say no ( I used to be fairly popular when I was 17 and I lost a lot of friends this way) so I spend most of my time indoors trying to distract myself from anxious thoughts.
I know it's the worst idea to avoid these situations because I crave socialising but it's just easier. I think I can deal with rejection alright, I'm used to it, but I seem to think that if I get too close to someone I'll let them down by not having enough experience one way or another. I seem to just totally seize up and speak really quietly when someone new speaks to me and I'm constantly worrying for the first week or two what it could be that they want to take from me.
Also where money is concerned or I'm booking holidays I let things slide, avoid paying bills and rent sometimes and I have no reason to be doing it I just worry.
If I feel like a friend is ignoring me (which can either be true or not) I start to have panic attacks. I get scared of being alone for good and yet I seem to be ensuring that I will be.
like I say I'm not sure If I have AvPD because it seems to be on and off. One moment I'll be ok nothing but minor worries I can handle, then the next I'm having a panic attack. It started when I was 18, I think I've got better now I'm 22 and I've decided to fight, although it's not going entirely well at the moment.
Thanks for taking the time to read